A strap-on is a couples sex toy that allows one partner to penetrate another using a dildo held in place with a harness, leaving hands free to explore and pleasure elsewhere. Harnesses can be worn on the hips or legs for different play styles.

Strap-ons can be enjoyed by any couple, regardless of gender or sexual orientation. They are popular with lesbians/WLW, straight couples exploring pegging, and men seeking penetration options or variety.

Why are strap-ons popular with lesbians/WLW?

Strap-ons are a very popular sex toy among lesbians/WLW, with around 70% of our harnesses purchased by women-loving-women couples for intimate and versatile play.

How are strap-ons used for pegging?

Strap-ons are used for pegging when a vulva-owner anally penetrates a penis-owner. Kits like our Pegging Strap-On Kit are designed to make this experience comfortable, secure, and pleasurable for both partners.

Can men use strap-ons?

Yes! Men or penis-owners can use a strap-on to provide penetration to their partner, explore double penetration, or enjoy different sizes than nature provides. Strap-ons can be used regardless of erection or sexual orientation.

How do I choose my strap-on?

Pick your dildo first, then your harness. Consider width, o-ring compatibility, and dildo length. Leather harnesses with interchangeable rings suit wider dildos, while fixed O-ring fabric harnesses work best for slimmer toys.

Why don’t you sell all-in-one strap-ons?

All-in-one strap-ons are difficult to clean because juices can gather around the base. Separate harnesses and dildos allow thorough cleaning and the flexibility to swap sizes, shapes, or partners safely.

How do I clean and care for my strap-on?

Clean dildos with sex toy cleaner or antibacterial soap. Wipe leather harnesses with damp cloths; hand-wash or machine-wash fabric harnesses on cold. Always air dry before storing in a clean, fluff-free place.

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Q: Which is the best strap-on?

The best strap-on is the one that fits you and your partner’s needs. Choosing a separate dildo and adjustable harness ensures perfect fit, comfort, and versatility. Our Best Strap-On Kit is our most popular option.

Q: What is a strapless dildo?

A strapless dildo is a double-ended toy that allows one partner to penetrate without a harness. The smaller end is held internally while the longer shaft penetrates a partner. Strong pelvic muscles and gravity-assisted positions are key for control.

Q: Can I share my harness with a partner?

Yes, if you choose an adjustable harness like the 2-Strap, Super, or Corset harness. Slimmer partners can tighten straps, while partners of similar size may use underwear-style harnesses if clothing sizes match.

Our Strap-On Collections

Dildo Harnesses

Our handmade dildo harness designs are unique! Ultra-comfy, stylish, & practical to secure a dildo to your hips or thigh for strap-on or pegging play with your partner. Complimenting our range is the orginal underwear-style Rodeohs... Read about how to choose a dildo harness & get your strap-ON!

Sh! Strap-On Dildos

Ready to strap on something special? Explore our unique dildo range, specially designed for strap-on play!

Strap-On Extras

Strap-on extras to add something more to your strap on session; An extra dildo or buzz for the Strap-On operator? Extra sensations for the strap-on receiver? You'll find all the ways to enhance your strap-on play here!

Strap-On Kits

Our strap-on dildo kits make strapon shopping easy. Specially selected from our best-selling products, each kit contains everything you need for a night of strap on seduction; hand-made silicone dildo & soft leather harness, plus lubricant & toy cleaner, all gift-packaged in a gift-style storage box.

Strapless Dildos

A Strapless is a U-shape double dildo, designed for lesbian or pegging couples to enjoy close, intimate strap-on style sex, harness-free. Strapless dildos are best for slow grinding & subtle moves, rather than wild thrusting. Every Strapless we select is body-safe & ergonomically in tune for body-to-body contact.

Made by Women: Strap-Ons by Sh!

Soon after founding the UK's first sex shop for women in London 1992, we quickly realised that the straps on offer at the time were uncomfortable, impractical & pretty ugly!

So we set about creating our own...

Proudly designed by lesbians, Sh! strap-ons are unique creations, each one hand-crafted with care in our UK studio, using high quality materials & fittings - world's apart from mass-produced straps from far-flung factories.

Treated with care a Sh! strap can (and do) last years.

'Distinguished Services to Strap-Ons'
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'I bought this harness as my first harness back in 2002, it lasted me nearly 10 years!!! Extremely comfortable, definitely worth the extra money :) Would definitely buy it again!!' Review: Sh! Super StapOn

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What are the different types of strap-ons?

Check out the pros (+) & cons (-) of each style of strap-on harness, and discover for yourself just how secure, comfortable & sensual your harness can really can be.

2-Strap Harness

BESTSELLER

+ Can be shared by partners of different sizes.

+ Wide range of sizes.

+ In leather, wide choice of colours.

+ 3 x interchangeable O-rings for different size dildos.

- Can stretch over time

SHOP LEATHER 2-STRAP

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Wide-Back Harness

BESTSELLER

+ Better supports heavier dildos.

+ Lots of colours & designs to strap-on in style!

+ 3 x interchangeable O-rings for different size dildos.

+/- Only available in leather ( at the moment)

- Pricier.

SHOP PLAIN-BACK

SHOP CORSET-BACK

Boxer or Thong Harness

+ Speedy pull-on style.

+ Wear discreetly under clothes.

+ Available in fabric or leather.

- Can't share with partner who's a different size to you.

- Fixed O-ring / dildo aperture (dildo must be 1.5" diam or less)

- Won't support heavy dildos.

SHOP LEATHER HARNESS

SHOP FABRIC HARNESS

Rubber Strap

+ Looks tough, feel secure.

+ Thick rubber will last for years.

+ Vegan.

- Heavy to wear.

- Buckles can pinch

SHOP CLASSIC RUBBER STRAP

SHOP DELUXE RUBBER STRAP

Thigh Harness

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+ A different kind of strap-on sex!

+ Great for bad backs & mobility issues.

+ Fits up to 31" circumference thigh.

- Gravity can cause to slip, unless lying down/seated.

SHOP LEATHER THIGH HARNESS

SHOP VEGAN THIGH HARNESS

Strapless

+ Strap-on style sex without a harness.

+ Feels close & intimate.

+/- Can be used in a harness if need be.

+/- Operator needs a strong pelvic floor!

- Prone to slipping

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How to put on a Sh! adjustable harness

Loosen all 4 straps, leaving about 3-5cm on the ends.

If you can wiggle the harness over your hips - step in like a pair of pants (with the 2 back straps going between your legs) If you can't wiggle in, undo one of the front straps.

Pull up the harness & adjust back straps so the back strap/panel sits on your lower back.

Adjust the front straps evenly, so the front panel sits over your pubic area and the front straps meet the D-rings of the back strap at your hips.

For a super-secure fit, bend forward at the hips and pull the front straps evenly downwards.

Shopping for a complete strapon set?

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Why Strap?

A dildo slipped into a harness creates a 'strap on' - a toy with fabulous play potential for any couple who enjoy penetrative sex together. Seen traditionally as a lesbian sex toy, since time vulva-vulva couples have understood the deeply connected, intimate pleasures of strap-on play. But as more penis-owners discover prostate pleasure, more and more vulva-penis couples are coming to Sh! to buy a strap-on for pegging.

For the person being penetrated, the pleasures are clear.

But what about the person wearing the strapon - what do they get out of it? (apart from satisfying the penetrative cravings of your lover, with your hands free to please and tease elsewhere, that is!)

BENEFITS OF WEARING A STRAP-ON AS WOMAN/ VULVA-OWNER

Enjoy the friction of straps on clit as you thrust - for many it's enough to get them off during a strap-on session. Or use a stimulating dildo base, a vibrating dildo or a dual tool (which adds a 2nd dildo to your harness for your pleasure) All will add extra sensations and could make orgasm easier whilst you're making your strap-moves.

Explore fantasy role-play... and pretend you own a dick if you want to ;)

BENEFITS OF WEARING A STRAP-ON AS A MAN / PENIS-OWNER

Strapping on a dildo above your penis allows you to explore double pentration with a vulva-owning partner.

With a strap-on in your toy-box, you can let go of any erection worries or wobbles!

Pimp Your Strap

Ready to add a little 'oomph' to your strap-on sessions?

Dual Dildo Holder

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BENEFITS STRAP-OPERATOR

Attaches a 2nd dildo to your strap, so you can experience penetration yourself, whilst penetrating your partner. Win!

Compatible with:

2-Strap Harness

Super Strapon

Corset Back Harness

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Dildo Base

BENEFITS STRAP-OPERATOR

Provides stimulation & cushioning.

Protects against bruising during vigorous sessions.

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Panty Vibe

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BENEFITS STRAP-OPERATOR

Shaped to sit snugly against the labia & clit. It can be kept in place by harness straps or slipped into underwear strap pants.

Models with a separate remote make easy to increase or lessen vibration, as needed (or hand the control to your partner?;)

SHOP PANTY VIBES

C-Shape Vibes

BENEFITS STRAP-OPERATOR OR RECEIVER

Worn by strap-receiver, will deliver simultaneous clitoral & G-spot stimulation during penetrative sex.

Strap-operator could also wear (pro/con: vibration button may turn-up/down during thrusting!)

SHOP C-SHAPE VIBE

Vibrating Dildo

BENEFITS STRAP-OPERATOR & RECEIVER

Tiny, rechargeable bullet slots into dildo. Delivers vibration, mostly at the base, but also gently travels up shaft for receiver to enjoy.

These dildos have integrated clit stimulator to rub against receiver during play:

Princess

Countess

Queen

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Vibrating C-Ring

BENEFITS STRAP-RECEIVER

Designed for cocks, but work well on dildos too!

Worn at dildo base, delivers vibrating clitoral stimulation to strap-receiver.

SHOP VIBRATING C-RINGS

Strap-On FAQ's

What is a strap on?

A strap-on is couples sex toy that allows one partner to penerate the other using a dildo that's held in place with a harness. This leaves hands free to explore and pleasure elsewhere...

Usually the strap-on is worn on the hips to replicate tradtional pentration, but you can also buy a harness to strap a dildo to your leg.

Who uses a strap-on?

Any couple, whatever their gender or sexual orientation can use a strap!

Lesbians/WLW

Many people think strap-ons are for lesbians only and certainly they are a very popular lesbian sex toy. We'd say around 70% of our straps are bought by WLW couples.

Pegging

Strap-ons also very popular with straight (vulva/penis) couples for pegging, which when a woman/vulva-owner anally pentrates a man/penis-owner with a strapon. If you're looking to explore this, our Pegging Strap-On Kit might be for you.

Men/ Penis-owners

A men can strap a dildo above his penis to provide double penetration to his female partner or to provide penetration when he doesn't have an an erection himself, (whether due to erectile dysfunction or not) ... or he can strap on simply to penetrate his male or female partner with a different-size wand to the one nature gave him.

Really, strapons are for everyone!

How to choose my strap?

It's best to choose your dildo first, then choose your harness.

If your dildo is wider than 1.5 inches diameter, you will need a leather (or vegan pleather) harness with an interchangeable o-ring.

Most of our leather harnesses will accomodate ALL widths of dildo - we supply 3 interchangeable O-rings to hold the dildo securely.

Fabric, boxer-style harnesses, such as Rodeo, as well as Sh! Thong harness & Thigh harness all have fixed o-rings that will not take a wide dildo.

When choosing your dildo, pick a slightly longer dildo than you would if you were using it by hand, as at least an inch of the dildo (more if curvier bodies are involved) will be lost, once it's strapped into a harness. The dildo needs to have a flared/wide base to keep it securely in the harness (which all dildos we carry do:).

Which is the best strap-on?

THE million dollar (dildo?) question - the best strap-on is the one that works best for you and your partner!

When it comes to strap-ons, we believe one size does NOT fit all. By choosing an individual dildo and harness, you will always have the best strap-on for you in both size and fit.

Our Best Strap-On Kit is our most popular combo, but we're happy to help you find the combo that best suits you!

Why don't you sell all-in-one/fused strap-ons?

All-in-one strapons, where the dildo is permanently fixed to a harness are impossible to clean properly. Just too many nooks and crannies around the base of the dildo for juices to gather & harbour nasties.

By using a separate harness and dildo, you can not only clean the dildo thoroughly, but you can also use different-sized dildos to satisfy different desires, orifices or partners...

What is a strapless dildo?

A 'strapless' is essentially a double dildo designed to replicate strap-on-style sex but without the use of a harness.

Instead the 'operator' grips the smaller, egg-shaped portion inside their vagina. The longer shaft extends in front to penetrate their partner vaginally or anally.

As the strapless operator, you do need to have strong PC muscles to be able to hold the it inside, and to play in positions that work with gravity, rather than against it (ie. the reciever on top)

Strapless are best for close, intimate penetration or grinding together. They're impossible for wild thrusting - unless you slip them into a harness for added security.

Can I share my harness with a partner?

It depends on what kind of harness you choose.

To share thrusting duties, you will need an adjustable harness, such as 2-Strap Harness, Super Harness or Corset Harness.

It needs to fit the person with curvier hips. The slimmer partner tightens the straps when they want to be stapon-operator.

With underwear style, partners need to be same clothing size if they are going to share.

How to clean & care for my strap-on?

Spritz your dildo with sex toy cleaner, or wash it thoroughly with antibacterial soap.

Leather Harness: Wipe clean with a cloth dampened with soap, followed with dry cloth.

Fabric Harness: Hand wash or machine on cold.

Leave both harness & dildo to air dry before storing in clean, fluff-free place (not airtight).

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Thanks to P for this honest review of the Sh! 2-strap leather strap-on harness, a bestselling classic loved for its quality craftsmanship, comfortable fit, and versatile design. Discover why this harness remains a top choice for strap-on play and pegging.

Q&A: Lesbian Couple Seeks Vibrator for Strap-On Harness Play

'Hi, we are a lesbian couple looking for a vibrator that can be used with a harness to allow for some vigorous thrusting. We have a double dildo harness, and the receiver is very happy with the dildo we have, but the harness wearer wants to have a vibrator with clitoral stimulator. We have tried various things, but they do have a tendency to drop out at the wrong moment. Any suggestions of dildos or vibrators, or mix and match that might work? Thanks!'

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Discover the world of strapless dildos and how they enable harness-free strap-on play. Learn how these innovative double-ended toys work, their benefits for couples, and expert tips for successful use during intimate play.

Can Men Wear A Strap-On Harness For Double Penetration?

Hi, I'm looking for a harness that's ok for men to wear to give their partner double penetration, i.e. there's space for a man's penis and space for a dildo as well. Also, my partner would like to use a harness for either single penetration or double penetration on another woman. Any ideas?

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Strap-On Harnesses for Women & Lesbians

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Made by Women: Strap-Ons by Sh!

What are the different types of strap-ons?

2-Strap Harness

Wide-Back Harness

Boxer or Thong Harness

Rubber Strap

Thigh Harness

Strapless

How to put on a Sh! adjustable harness

Shopping for a complete strapon set?

Best Strap-On Kit

Pegging Kit

Why Strap?

BENEFITS OF WEARING A STRAP-ON AS WOMAN/ VULVA-OWNER

BENEFITS OF WEARING A STRAP-ON AS A MAN / PENIS-OWNER

Pimp Your Strap

Dual Dildo Holder

BENEFITS STRAP-OPERATOR

Dildo Base

BENEFITS STRAP-OPERATOR

Panty Vibe

BENEFITS STRAP-OPERATOR

C-Shape Vibes

BENEFITS STRAP-OPERATOR OR RECEIVER

Vibrating Dildo

BENEFITS STRAP-OPERATOR & RECEIVER

Vibrating C-Ring

BENEFITS STRAP-RECEIVER

Strap-On FAQ's

What is a strap on?

Who uses a strap-on?

How to choose my strap?

Which is the best strap-on?

Why don't you sell all-in-one/fused strap-ons?

What is a strapless dildo?

Can I share my harness with a partner?

How to clean & care for my strap-on?

Strap-On Advice

Pegging Advice