Strap-Ons HARNESSES • STRAP-ON DILDOS • PEGGING & PARTNER PLAY

A strap-on is a dildo worn on the body, usually with a harness that holds it securely in place for hands-free play.

But there’s more than one way to strap on.

• Harness + dildo → The classic set-up. Choose your harness and compatible dildo separately for maximum choice.
• Strap-on kit → An easy all-in-one option with compatible pieces already put together for you.
• Strapless dildo → Designed to be held internally by the wearer, so there’s no traditional harness.
• Pegging → Strap-on play where a dildo is used for anal penetration.
• Sh! tip → Strap-ons aren't defined by gender or sexuality. They're simply another delicious way for consenting adults to give, receive and share pleasure.

Consider who'll be wearing & recieving, how you want to play and what feels comfortable for both of you.

For the wearer, think about harness fit, adjustability, stability and whether you'd like stimulation too.

For the receiver, dildo size, shape and firmness will make the biggest difference.

• New to strap-ons? → Start with a comfortable adjustable harness and a slimmer dildo.
• Want maximum control? → Look for a harness that holds the dildo close and firmly against the body.
• Want more sensation for the wearer? → Explore vibrating dildos, panty vibes, stimulating dildo bases and double-ended accessories.
• Already know what you like? → Mix and match your harness and dildo to create your perfect combination.
• Sh! tip → Bigger isn't automatically better. Comfort and control make for much more satisfying strap-on play.

The best strap-on harness is one that feels comfortable, secure and easy to move in.

Different harness designs distribute pressure differently, so consider how much support and adjustability you want.

• Check the fit → If you are between sizes, go smaller. .
• Check adjustability → Adjustable straps make it easier to get a snug, stable fit.
• Check the O-ring → Your dildo needs to fit the harness opening securely.
• Think about control → A well-fitting harness keeps the dildo close to the body, giving the wearer greater control over movement.
• Your harness should feel snug enough to stay put without digging in or restricting you.

There’s no single “best” strap-on dildo — the right one depends on the receiver’s comfort, the sensations you want and how you like to play. Look for a wide, harness-compatible base and check that the dildo fits securely through your harness O-ring.

• Slim → Gentler for beginners and anyone who prefers less girth.
• Curved → Adds more targeted G-spot or prostate stimulation.
• Textured → Ribs and contours add extra sensation with every movement.
• Fuller → More stretch and fullness for those who already know they enjoy girth.
• Vibrating → Adds extra buzz for the receiver and, with some designs, the wearer too.
• Check usable length → A harness can reduce the dildo’s usable length by around an inch or so, depending on the harness and dildo base. If you love longer strokes, factor this in when choosing your size.
• Sh! tip → When in doubt, prioritise girth over length. You can control how deeply a longer dildo is used, but you can’t make a too-wide dildo slimmer.

The best strap-on for two vulvas should feel good for the receiver and comfortable and controllable for the wearer.

• Start with girth → New to strap-on play? Start slim. Width often matters more than length for comfortable penetration.
• Think about movement → Shorter dildos are great for close, intimate grinding; longer dildos give more range for thrusting and are less likely to slip out.
• Get the right fit → A secure, comfortable harness gives the wearer better control. Adjustable and underwear-style harnesses are both great options.
• Add pleasure for the wearer → Vibrating dildos, panty vibes and stimulating bases can add clitoral sensation.
• Sh! tip → Go slowly, communicate and experiment with positions and angles to discover what feels delicious for you both.

Want more help? → Read our Guide to Strap-On Sex for Lesbians for more on choosing a harness and dildo, sizing, wearer pleasure and finding a set-up that works for you both.

For pegging, think comfortable harness, and slim dildo (especially when starting out.) and always plenty of lube.

• Choose a secure harness → Underwear styles are easy to slip on, while adjustable strap harnesses offer more control and interchangeable O-rings.
• Start slim → Girth matters more than length for anal comfort. Start smaller and size up only when the receiver wants more fullness.
• Think shape & texture → A gentle curve can target the prostate, while subtle ribbing adds sensation with each stroke.
• Use plenty of lube → The anus doesn't self-lubricate. A thicker water-based anal lube adds cushioning and works beautifully with silicone dildos.
• Sh! tip → Warm up first, go slowly and let the receiver set the pace. Never push through pain.
• Want it easy? → A complete pegging kit gives you a compatible harness, dildo, anal lube and toy cleaner in one ready-to-play set.
• Want more help? → Read our Want to Know More about Pegging guide for practical advice on choosing a pegging harness and dildo, getting started with anal play, using lube and finding the right set-up for you both.

Water-based lube is the easiest all-round choice.

• Water-based lubricant is compatible with silicone dildos, feels lovely on the body and washes away easily afterwards.
• Don't forget you can't feel how wet your partner is through your strap on so use plenty and reapply whenever you need more glide particularly for anal strap-on play, where added lubrication is essential.
• If you're using a non-silicone dildo, other types of lube may also be suitable, but always check compatibility with the toy material first.
• Sh! tip → Don't be stingy with the slippery stuff. More glide usually means more comfortable, pleasurable play.

Penetration and clitoral stimulation can be a particularly pleasurable combination.

You have a couple of easy options:

• Clit-stimulating dildos → Designs such as Royal Dildos feature additional shapes intended to stimulate the clitoral area during strap-on play.
• Vibrating cock ring → Slip a compatible vibrating ring over the shaft of your dildo to bring vibration closer to the clitoris.
• You can also bring a favourite bullet or clitoral vibrator into play separately — strap-on sex doesn't have to be hands-free for everyone.

Being the wearer doesn't mean missing out on sensation. There are plenty of ways to add stimulation:

• Vibrating dildo → Adds extra thrills around the wearer's pubic area.
• Dildo base cover → Fits over compatible dildo bases to add texture against the vulva and clitoris.
• Panty vibrator → Sits against the clitoris beneath the harness for vibration during play.
• Dual Dildo Stra-On Holder → Allows the wearer to enjoy penetration while pleasuring their partner with the strap-on.
  
• Don't underestimate grinding. A snug harness and stimulating dildo base can make movement feel fabulous for the wearer too.