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How to Choose an Anal Dildo - Sh! Women's Store

Many customers make the mistake of buying a butt plug when what they really want is a dildo for anal sex. It's not a massive mistake, but understanding the difference ensures you get a toy that delivers the sensations you desire.

A dildo has a regular girth (though it can be slightly flared or ribbed for pleasure), which delivers smooth anal penetration. A butt plug has a sphincter stopper at its base that makes it stay put. A butt plug offers sensual stimulation, but it’s not designed for sliding in and out like a dildo.

Choosing an anal dildo

Choosing an anal dildo is all about size, with getting the width right the most important consideration. Unless you are confident you know the perfect size for your anal dildo, it’s best to start off with a slim dildo. 

The anus is a delicate flower where everything, particularly size, feels magnified.

The flower metaphor works perfectly for anal pleasure: The bum-hole starts out as a tight bud, and gentle & loving cultivation encourages it to slowly open up.

As you become more turned on, slight ‚Äėstretching‚Äô might feel good, but XL anal dildos are mostly the stuff of fantasy and porn films rather than reality...

Marble dildos is bright colours

 

Anal dildos for strap-on sex

Are you going to use your anal dildo in a strap-on? If so, we recommend choosing a dildo with a long shaft. 

A couple of centimetres of dildo length will be lost once you have slipped the dildo into a harness, making the shaft shorter.

Also, tums & bums usually get in the way, so a long dildo may be necessary for giving or getting intense pleasure.  

Strapon harness in pink leather and black anal dildo

 

Why Butt Dildos Must Be 'Anal-Safe'

Any sex toy destined for a butt needs to be anal-safe.

Using unsafe toys may earn you a trip to A&E, so best avoided. Sh! dildos have wide heart-shaped bases, making them safe sex toys for anal penetration. However passionate you & bae get, using a Sh! dildo will keep yer butts safe!

Sh! dildos are made from silicone, which is body-safe and non-porous. Silicone is soft and flexible; super-important for comfortable and pain-free anal play. Sh! silicone dildos are easy to clean and can be sterilized between uses.

We handmake over 30 different sizes and styles of dildos, and we can help you choose your perfect anal dildo.

Dildo heart-shaped base
Anal-safe dildo bases

- Wirly 2 

Our best-selling anal dildo. 5.25-inches long with a rounded head and a slim 1.1-inch shaft make it flexible and bendy. A ribbed shaft delivers extra sensations as it slides in and out. WG2 has enough length to offer satisfying strokes without it feeling overwhelming.

 

- Cupid 2 

Another popular anal dildo. Cupid 2 is 4.5-inches long and 1.25-inch wide. The forward curve of this dildo makes it great for targeted prostate stimulation.

 

- Wirly 3 

A good choice if you plan to wear your dildo in a harness. At 7 inches long with a gently rounded head and ribbed 1.25-inch shaft, this is a user-friendly and popular dildo for longer-stroke anal penetration. A little bit longer than Wirly Girly 2, it reaches deeper inside. 

 

Choosing a Dildo for Pegging

In the last 10-15 years, pegging has become increasingly popular, and about 45% of the strap-on dildos sold at Sh! are sold for pegging. 

Pegging is the term for a woman who straps on a dildo to anally pleasure a man. Pegging a man or male-bodied person using an anal dildo will stimulate their prostate gland and likely bring on intense orgasms.

Any dildo can be coupled with a strap-on to create the perfect pegging toy, so take some time to browse our silicone dildo collection.

It is always best to choose your dildo first and then add a harness to create a strap-on.

 

Pegging harness in thong style with purple ribbed anal dildo

 

Best strap-on for pegging

Our Pegging Strap-On Kit is the ideal starter kit for anyone ready to explore pegging. It’s a perfectly put-together set, made up of all our best-selling pegging products:

Pegging Strap On Kit

Best lube for anal sex

Last but not least, a word on lube.

Using lube for anal sex is essential. The anus isn't self-lubrication, so a generous amount of anal lube is key to ensuring anal sex is all pleasure and no pain.

Here's our advice on the best lubes for anal sex.

Sh! Pure Plus bottle of anal lube

Top tip for anal sex with a dildo

Our tip for anal sex with a dildo is aiming the tip of the dildo towards the inside belly button of the receiving partner. This will align better with their body, ensuring no accidental, painful ‚Äėbumping‚Äô occurs.

  • Are they on their back? Insert the dildo with the tip pointing upwards.
  • Are they on all fours? Insert the dildo with the tip pointing downwards.

    Read more about anal pleasure here.

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