Painful Sex Advice

10 Years of Vaginismus Awareness Day

At Sh! we know just how tough vaginismus can be, not just physically, but emotionally too. For years, customers have shared their stories with...

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Vaginismus Awareness Day - Advice From Our Panel

The 15th of September was Vaginismus Awareness Day and we were delighted to have been joined by Lisa Mackenzie, co-founder of the Vaginismus Network,...

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What is Vaginismus? (And How to Enjoy Sex with It)

You may have heard of Vaginismus? Or maybe not? Read on to learn more about this painful condition which affects so many women &...

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Q&A: I Think My Girlfriend Might Have Vaginismus

Me and my gf, both virgins, tried to have sex for the first time recently. Everything was going fine for a while, we went...

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Vaginismus & Painful Sex: Moving Towards Pain-Free Penetration

Painful penetration can be frustrating, confusing and difficult to talk about. If penetration regularly hurts, feels impossible, or your vaginal muscles seem to tighten...

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Q&A: I think I have Vaginismus? What now?

Hi Sh! Team, I find this really difficult and awkward to talk about but I'm guessing you are probably very used to it. I went...

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Q&A: Help! I Can't Have Penetrative Sex

'Dear Sh! I've been trying to lose my virginity, but I can't. We have tried so many times, but I always stop him before...

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Q&A With Sarah Berry: Dealing with Vaginismus

Dear Sarah,I’ve always found trying to have sex difficult. The first time I expected it to hurt but it never got better, my boyfriend...

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Q&A: Vaginismus Dilators

Dear Sh! I've just been told I have something called Vaginismus. I've spent years wondering why I couldn't have proper sex with boyfriends (and...

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Q&A: Painful Sex / Intercourse

Dear Sh! I'm trying to find a gel that numbs internally. After having a laparoscopy and finding out that I have problems with my...

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Lymphoedema & Sexual Health

Lymphoedema is an important issue that we think should be talked about much more than it is, particularly the often-ignored fact that it can...

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How to Alleviate Vaginal Dryness

Vaginal dryness is an issue for many women and vulva owners. Not only is dryness uncomfortable or even painful, but many feel their bodies...

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Towards Sex Without Pain

Sex without pain - it's our right. Right?  An American survey, the 'National Survey of Sexual Health and Behaviour' has produced some startling statistics....

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Finding the Right Vibrator for Vaginismus & Vulvodynia

Hi there, I'd love to get your recommendations on a vibrator, please. The only toy I have currently is a simple bullet vibrator that...

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Understanding Vaginismus: Causes, Treatments & Support

Vaginismus is a painful condition that affects countless women & vulva owners. For those experiencing it, vaginismus can profoundly impact intimate relationships, self-esteem, and...

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Q&A: Vaginismus - More Vaginal Dilator Sizes?

Hi there Sh! team, First of all, I want to say a big thank you from the bottom of my heart for creating the...

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Guest Post: Conception without Penetration

Having vaginismus need not be a barrier to having a baby. Not everyone wants children. Not everyone wants penetrative sex. Not every vagninismic person...

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Guest Post: My Vaginismus Journey by Lisa Mackenzie

'I recently purchased a new sex toy - specifically the Rabbit Vibrator from Sh! I'm in a really positive and healthy place with my dilating; I've...

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How Common is Vaginismus?

With Vaginismus Awareness Day just around the corner, the team at Sh! have been hard at work talking to you about what life is...

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Ohnut: Give the Finger to Painful Penetrative Sex

What began as tears of frustration and a strawberry-glazed doughnut has blossomed into the sweetest of sexual revolutions, heralded by one woman and felt...

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Reasons to Choose a Slim Sex Toy

There are many reasons why people choose a slim sex toy. Some have narrow vaginas or experience vaginismus. Others find that thicker toys don’t...

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