Remote-Control Strap-On Harnesses for Women & Lesbians
Our handcrafted strap-on harnesses are designed by lesbians for comfort, style, and a secure dildo fit. Perfect for beginners or pros, our adjustable, 5-star-rated harnesses make every session smooth and pleasurable. Discover the best strap-on harnesses for women, lesbians, and all pleasure seekers!
Our handcrafted strap-on harnesses are designed by lesbians for comfort, style, and a secure dildo fit. Perfect for beginners or pros, our adjustable, 5-star-rated harnesses make every session smooth and pleasurable. Discover the best strap-on harnesses for women, lesbians, and all pleasure seekers!
Why Choose a Strap-On Harness?
Strap-on harnesses transform penetrative play for lesbian couples, straight couples exploring pegging, and anyone seeking hands-free pleasure.
Unlike handheld dildos, a strapon harness keeps the dildo secure and stable, letting you focus on connection, rhythm, and pleasure. Whether you're new to pegging harnesses or an experienced wearer, the right harness makes all the difference: no slipping, no fumbling, just confident, comfortable intimacy.
Types of Strap-On Harnesses in Our Collection
Leather Strap-On Harnesses: Our premium leather strapon harnesses are handcrafted in the UK for durability, style, and comfort. Leather harnesses offer superior support for larger dildos, stunning aesthetic appeal, and long-lasting quality. Perfect for those who want a harness that looks as good as it feels.
Fabric & Nylon Harnesses: Lightweight, washable, and beginner-friendly. Fabric strap-on harnesses are easy to adjust, comfortable for extended wear, and typically more affordable than leather. Great for first-time buyers or anyone who prefers softer materials.
Jock-Style Harnesses: Minimalist harnesses with a sporty, gender-affirming design. Jock-style strap-ons offer maximum breathability and a masculine aesthetic. Popular with trans men, non-binary folks, and anyone who loves the athletic look.
G-String & Thong Harnesses: Feminine strap-on harnesses designed for the wearer's pleasure too. Many feature built-in pockets for bullet vibes, making these perfect for double-ended pleasure. Flattering, sexy, and functional.
Universal O-Ring Harnesses: Interchangeable O-rings fit various dildo sizes, making these the most versatile option. One harness, endless possibilities. Ideal for those with multiple dildos or who want to start with a strap-on dildo kit and expand their collection.
Strap-On Harness vs Strapless Strap-On
Traditional strap-on harnesses use straps and O-rings for a secure, stable fit – perfect for vigorous play, larger dildos, and beginners who want reliable performance. Strapless dildos (also called double-ended or feeldoes) rely on the wearer's pelvic floor muscles to hold them in place. While strapless options offer unique intimacy, harnesses provide superior stability and control. Many users prefer harnesses, especially for pegging or extended sessions.
How to Choose the Best Strap-On Harness
For Beginners: Start with an adjustable fabric harness or a complete strap-on kit with harness and dildo included. Look for easy-to-use buckles, clear sizing guides, and beginner-friendly dildos.
For Lesbian Couples: Our lesbian strap-on harnesses are designed with queer bodies in mind – comfortable waistbands, flattering fits, and options for all gender expressions. Choose leather for durability or fabric for easy care.
For Pegging: Pegging harnesses need excellent stability and adjustability. Leather or jock-style harnesses work best for vigorous thrusting. Pair with strap-on accessories like lube and cleaning supplies.
For Plus-Size Bodies: Many of our harnesses extend to 60+ inch waists. Look for wide waistbands and extra-long straps for comfort and support.
Handcrafted in the UK Since 1992
Every Sh! strap-on harness is handmade in our London workshop with premium materials: vegetable-tanned leather, heavy-duty nylon, and rust-proof hardware. We pioneered lesbian-designed harnesses in the UK, and our Sh! exclusive harnesses remain customer favorites 30+ years later. All harnesses come with fitting guides, care instructions, and our legendary customer service. Ready to explore strap-on play? Browse our complete collection of harnesses, dildos, and accessories for unforgettable pleasure!
Shop Strap-Ons by Type
Our handmade dildo harness designs are unique! Ultra-comfy, stylish, & practical to secure a dildo to your hips or thigh for strap-on or pegging play with your partner. Complimenting our range is the orginal underwear-style Rodeohs... Read about how to choose a dildo harness & get your strap-ON!
Ready to strap on something special? Explore our unique dildo range, specially designed for strap-on play!
Strap-on extras to add something more to your strap on session; An extra dildo or buzz for the Strap-On operator? Extra sensations for the strap-on receiver? You'll find all the ways to enhance your strap-on play here!
Our strap-on dildo kits make strapon shopping easy. Specially selected from our best-selling products, each kit contains everything you need for a night of strap on seduction; hand-made silicone dildo & soft leather harness, plus lubricant & toy cleaner, all gift-packaged in a gift-style storage box.
A Strapless is a U-shape double dildo, designed for lesbian or pegging couples to enjoy close, intimate strap-on style sex, harness-free. Strapless dildos are best for slow grinding & subtle moves, rather than wild thrusting. Every Strapless we select is body-safe & ergonomically in tune for body-to-body contact.
Why Buy Your Strap-On from Sh! Women’s Store?
- Award-winning & women-owned
- Expert-led advice
- Designed by lesbians
- Handcrafted in small batches
- Discreet UK delivery, free £60+
- Expert-led advice
- Designed by lesbians
- Handcrafted in small batches
- Discreet UK delivery, free £60+
What are the different types of strap-ons?
Check out the pros (+) & cons (-) of each style of strap-on harness, and discover for yourself just how secure, comfortable & sensual your harness can really can be.
2-Strap Harness
Wide-Back Harness
Boxer or Thong Harness
Rubber Strap
Thigh Harness
Strapless
How to put on a Sh! adjustable harness
Shopping for a complete strapon set?
Just starting out? Make strap-on shopping easy with the whole kit and caboodle. Our sets include everything you need; a best-selling dildo, harness, lube & toy cleaner. Your strap-on or pegging journey starts here...
Why Strap?
A dildo slipped into a harness creates a 'strap on' - a toy with fabulous play potential for any couple who enjoy penetrative sex together. Seen traditionally as a lesbian sex toy, since time vulva-vulva couples have understood the deeply connected, intimate pleasures of strap-on play. But as more penis-owners discover prostate pleasure, more and more vulva-penis couples are coming to Sh! to buy a strap-on for pegging.
Pimp Your Strap
Ready to add a little 'oomph' to your strap-on sessions?
Dual Dildo Holder
BENEFITS STRAP-OPERATOR
Dildo Base
BENEFITS STRAP-OPERATOR
Panty Vibe
BENEFITS STRAP-OPERATOR
C-Shape Vibes
BENEFITS STRAP-OPERATOR OR RECEIVER
Vibrating Dildo
BENEFITS STRAP-OPERATOR & RECEIVER
Vibrating C-Ring
BENEFITS STRAP-RECEIVER
Strap-On FAQ's
What is a strap on?
A strap-on is couples sex toy that allows one partner to penerate the other using a dildo that's held in place with a harness. This leaves hands free to explore and pleasure elsewhere...
Who uses a strap-on?
Any couple, whatever their gender or sexual orientation can use a strap!
How to choose my strap?
Which is the best strap-on?
When it comes to strap-ons, we believe one size does NOT fit all. By choosing an individual dildo and harness, you will always have the best strap-on for you in both size and fit.
Why don't you sell all-in-one/fused strap-ons?
By using a separate harness and dildo, you can not only clean the dildo thoroughly, but you can also use different-sized dildos to satisfy different desires, orifices or partners...
What is a strapless dildo?
Instead the 'operator' grips the smaller, egg-shaped portion inside their vagina. The longer shaft extends in front to penetrate their partner vaginally or anally.
Can I share my harness with a partner?
To share thrusting duties, you will need an adjustable harness, such as 2-Strap Harness, Super Harness or Corset Harness.
It needs to fit the person with curvier hips. The slimmer partner tightens the straps when they want to be stapon-operator.
With underwear style, partners need to be same clothing size if they are going to share.
How to clean & care for my strap-on?
Read more about how to clean & care for your strap-on here.
Dip into our strapon & pegging guides for everything you need to know about having fabulous strap-on sex.
Strap-On Advice
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Dear Sh!, I've just brought your corset-back leather harness to go with the dildo I also bought from Sh! I have quite a pronounced mons pubis and delicate skin, so I've been looking at the bumpers. And I'm going around in circles as some look pretty aggressive with hard bumps. What would you recommend if I want padded protection for me (the giver)? My partner wants it pretty hard and I want sufficient padding so I don't end up bruised and sore...
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Thanks to P for this honest review of the Sh! 2-strap leather strap-on harness, a bestselling classic loved for its quality craftsmanship, comfortable fit, and versatile design. Discover why this harness remains a top choice for strap-on play and pegging.
'Hi, we are a lesbian couple looking for a vibrator that can be used with a harness to allow for some vigorous thrusting. We have a double dildo harness, and the receiver is very happy with the dildo we have, but the harness wearer wants to have a vibrator with clitoral stimulator. We have tried various things, but they do have a tendency to drop out at the wrong moment. Any suggestions of dildos or vibrators, or mix and match that might work? Thanks!'
Learn how to choose and wear a strap-on harness with our comprehensive guide. Discover different harness styles, how to achieve the perfect fit, and step-by-step instructions for putting on your harness for comfortable, confident play.
Discover the world of strapless dildos and how they enable harness-free strap-on play. Learn how these innovative double-ended toys work, their benefits for couples, and expert tips for successful use during intimate play.
Hi, I'm looking for a harness that's ok for men to wear to give their partner double penetration, i.e. there's space for a man's penis and space for a dildo as well. Also, my partner would like to use a harness for either single penetration or double penetration on another woman. Any ideas?
Pegging Advice
Strap-ons are no longer purely lesbian sex toys. Straight couples are getting in on the strap-on action and have been foor a while. Here's our advice from a Scarlet Magazine (remember?) article in January 2005 (wowzers!). Strap-on sex for straights - are two c*cks better than one?
Dear Sh! I'm a man who's really interested in trying out pegging. Unfortunately, I'm living out of the UK and don't know anywhere here I can even buy a dildo, let alone get expert advice. Help!
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Dear Sh! My girlfriend and I were wondering: Would a vibrating dildo be good for us to use during strap-on pegging? Any advice would be appreciated!
Dear Sh!, When we're both up for pegging, my girlfriend and I enjoy using a Twista dildo in our strap-on for a bit of pegging anal play. Even though we use loads of lube and take plenty of time, I'm getting the feeling that the dildo itself is a bit long for me...
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