We know strap-on sex isn't for everyone, but we want to highlight all the fun that can be had with strap-ons for those of you who are interested in giving it a try. Using a strap-on is a learned skill - but we're sure you'll agree the time it takes to master is time well spent!
Why would lesbians use a strap-on?
Well, there's a simple answer to that: It's fun!
Using a strap-on is a magnificent way of getting close to and pleasuring your partner in a whole new way. Wearing a strap-on is super-sexy, and there is every possibility that the wearer may orgasm from the sensual rubbing of the harness against labia and clit as she rocks and rolls against her partner.
Flipping the coin, the partner on the receiving end gets to enjoy the pressure, thrusting and rocking, and may well orgasm from this stimulation too.
Bonus: Both partners have hands free to play with nipples, clits or any other body part within easy reach.
A little bit of anatomy and biology is needed here: When a woman becomes aroused, the outer third of the vagina narrows and becomes tighter, whilst the inner two-thirds balloons and 'lifts'. This lifting effect can make her feel like she wants something inside, something that fills her. At this point, it can feel fantastic to have something to squeeze against, like a finger or a dildo.
Squeezing the PC muscle around a dildo can help heighten arousal and the likelihood of reaching orgasm, and the pressure of a dildo against the G-spot could potentially result in a wet orgasm. This is nothing to worry about - just put a towel on the bed and carry on coming!
Many women love having their cervix stimulated, and this is best done with the help of a longer toy. The C-spot has become a 'thing' and we have a guide to the A-Z of hot spots if you fancy learning more about erogenous zones.
First things first: for lesbian strap-on sex, you'll need a well-made harness.
How to choose a harness for lesbian strap-on sex
Choosing a harness can be tricky - we know this from conversations with customers: There are so many to choose from! So, we have put together a short but handy guide to help you find one that'll work for you.
Will you share your strap-on with a partner?
If the answer is yes, you want an adjustable harness. The harness needs to fit the person with the curviest hips. The other partner can easily tighten the straps when it's their turn to be the giver.
Do you want to wear your strap-on under your clothes?
If you want to be ready for sexy action at the drop of a pair of pants, a thong harness or a panty-style harness is best.
These harnesses can only be shared with a lover if you are the same size, or the harness will be too small for one and too large for another.
Pant-style harnesses are great for occasional use, but we suggest investing in an adjustable harness if you want to use your strap-on regularly. An adjustable harness will be fine even if you put on (or lose) a few pounds :)
Do you have curvaceous hips?
If you or your partner is curvy, we recommend getting a harness with a wider back as this sits more comfortably over beautiful curves. There's even a corset strap-on harness if you want to go fancy!
Do you want to use a large, heavy dildo?
Choosing a harness with a wide back offers more support for your tool. Wearing a slim-backed harness with a heavy dildo causes 'dildo droop' - the dildo points downwards. A wider-backed harness gives the stability and support you need for balance.
Do you have mobility issues or want to try a different kind of strap-on sex?
A thigh harness wraps around your upper leg, securing a dildo in place, giving a whole added dimension to thigh-humping! If you have a bad back, you can be seated while your girl straddles your leg, rocking her way to fantastic orgasms.
Or for more energentic strap-on antics, you can each wear a thigh harness, you can penetrate and pleasure each other simultaneously.
How to choose the right dildo for your strap-on?
Once a harness has been chosen, it's time to move on to choosing a dildo. Choosing the right size dildo may seem mind-boggling, but we have a few handy tips.
Always choose a silicone dildo. Silicone is hypoallergenic and non-porous, and by far the best material for sex toys. Silicone is easy to keep clean, warms up to body temperature, and feels pretty much like skin.
So that's easy to remember. But what about choosing the right size?
How big should a dildo for strap-on sex be?
Actually, a dildo doesn't need to be big to feel great - a small dildo can be equally pleasurable. It depends on the desires of the person on the receiving end, and these should always be taken into account - even if the wearer fancies herself wearing a King Dong...
We give an indication of a toy's width in fingers, so if you know how many fingers feel 'just right', we can help you find a dildo that fits. Is it one finger? Or maybe two fingers? A whole fist? Consider this, and you'll be well on your way to finding the best dildo for you.
What about shape and length? Again, the person on the receiving end needs to have a say. Do they fancy a long dildo or a short dildo? A girthy one? A dildo with a clitoral stimulator, perhaps? The great thing about dildos is that they come in so many shapes and sizes, and there is one that'll fit your needs perfectly!
DILDO WIDTH: This is the most important thing to get right with all dildo shopping, as a dildo that is too wide can feel uncomfortable. A slight stretch is one thing, but a dildo that produces an 'Oow!' rather than an 'Oooh!' is unlikely to get a second outing.
DILDO LENGTH: When buying a dildo to go in a harness, it's best to choose one that's longer than you would for hand-held, as an inch or so will be lost once the dildo has been placed in the harness. Factor in the space between bodies, too - if both of you have tummies, then you'll need a longer dildo to account for this.
Vibrating Dildo to Strap-On?
Millions of women rely on vibration to get off, and if you belong to this group, it's well worth upgrading to a vibrating dildo. With our vibrating dildos, you'll both feel the beneficial buzz. A small bullet vibe slips into the base of the dildo, quickly transforming it into a silicone love wand of magical proportions!
Whilst the vibrations of a silicone dildo are more subtle than a regular vibrator, the added thrills may help you get off simultaneously. The strap-on wearer will feel the thrills over her pubic area, and the receiver will feel the vibrations inside. Yum!
Added Dildo for the Strap-on Operator?
No problem - we've got you covered!
A dildo accessory allows the wearer to enjoy the feeling of penetration during strap-on sex. Choose a slightly shorter dildo as it'll be tightly strapped to you - a long dildo may be uncomfortable. A dildo accessory is also a great option if the wearer wants vibration, but the receiving partner doesn't fancy it.
P.S: Don't forget about the lube. Adding a drizzle of a lovely water-based lube to the strap-on dildo will only enhance and heighten the experience!
