Sexual health for lesbian & bisexual women

There is no such thing as safe sex – unless you choose to never have sex with anyone ever, of course. If you enjoy hot frolics with one or more partners, you need to consider safer sex.

Have you heard that old rumour about sexually transmitted infections (STIs) not passing from woman to woman?

Sorry, but it’s just not true!

Your peach can most definitely catch a variety of unpleasant infections from your fruity squeeze.

The risk of HIV transmission during girl + girl sex is low compared to other couple combos: Girl + Guy or Guy + Guy. But, other conditions and infections like Bacterial Vaginosis (we call it B-Vag), genital herpes, and thrush are just as common for lesbians as for women who have sex with men.

Can lesbians get STI's?

Any sexy activities that involve an exchange of bodily fluids can transmit infection, simple as that. Oral sex (cunnilingus or rimming) is not only massively pleasurable but also a potentially risky business. By covering the vagina and neighbouring areas with a dental dam, you are on much safer ground. Dental dams are essential if you want to go down on your woman during her period, for example, as infected blood is highly contagious.

Vaginal & anal finger play and fisting are risky, so latex gloves are a must-have. Latex gloves are excellent for keeping sores covered and body fluids off the skin. Keep your nails trimmed to avoid breaking the latex or scratching delicate genital skin.

Always opt for a water-based lubricant, as anything oil-based is unsuitable for use with latex. Vaseline and baby oil are absolute no-no’s as they'll break down the latex barrier plus cause unpleasant vaginal itching. 

If you want to share your toys, remember to always cover them with condoms and changing to fresh ones each time you swap toys around between partners. You can even get latex-free condoms – perfect for those with latex allergies!

A certain level of personal hygiene may be a given, but did you know that brushing your teeth immediately before sex can encourage bleeding? Check that your mouthwash is free of salicylates (aspirin), as this can make your gums bleed. Instead, just pop a mint, and you’re good to go!

A recent survey revealed lesbians do get STI's but are often not tested.

STI's are non-discriminatory; all genders and sexualities can be affected. If you notice any of these symptoms, you need to book an appointment at the local GUM clinic:

• Thick, smelly or frothy vaginal discharge
• Pain during sex or while peeing
• Sores on or around your genitals
• Spotting between your periods

Should you have the bad fortune of being diagnosed with an STI, you are obligated to contact any and all lovers as they'll need screening too. Sharing the news of a positive STI diagnosis can feel awkward (mortifying!) but remember: an STI means bad luck, not ‘loose morals'!

Do lesbians need smear tests?

There are unhelpful health professionals who don't believe that lesbians are at risk of cervical cancer and therefore 'don’t need smear tests'

This is a load of tosh, and you should either insist or simply register with a different GP.

All sexually active women need routine smear tests regardless of sexual preference. This includes women who are not regularly active or those who have had sex only once or twice.

Now, don’t let all this STI chat put you off sexy-time – just make sure you stock up on dams, gloves and lubes, and treat every vagina (including your own) with responsibility and respect!