Sexual fluidity is on the rise. And thank goodness - the more we all relax about labels, the freer everyone becomes to discover who they truly are.
In the UK, a YouGov poll showed that 1 in 2 young people say they aren’t '100% heterosexual,' and across the pond in the US, 1 in 3 say the same. On the queer dating app Her, the number of users identifying as bisexual leapt from 16% to 27% in just one year.
Bi Visibility Day (23rd September, since 1999) is a day to remind everyone why bisexuality deserves recognition and understanding. It’s a day for visibility, for community, for love… and yes, for tackling those clingy old myths that refuse to die.
Because even as more people identify as bi, myths about bisexuality are still hanging around. If you care about visibility and equality, take time to learn, share, and speak up. Celebrate Bi Visibility Day by supporting bi friends, challenging stereotypes, and joining the conversation because your voice matters.
Myth 1: Bisexual People Are Confused
Not at all. Bisexuality isn’t confusion. Most bisexual people know exactly who they’re attracted to: more than one gender. Simples. The idea that they’re “undecided” is usually projected onto them by people who can’t quite get their heads around it. It’s like saying someone who speaks two languages must be lost in translation. They’re not - they just have a richer vocabulary!
Truth: Bisexuality isn’t a pitstop on the road to 100% straight or 100% gay. It’s a destination all by itself.
Myth 2: Bi People Have Turbo-Charged Sex Drives
Ah, the old “bisexuals are insatiable” trope. It’s as tired as a phone battery at 3am. The reality? A bisexual person’s libido is as unique as anyone else’s. Some are raring to go; some would rather cuddle with Netflix, and most sit somewhere in between.
Truth: Sexuality = who you’re attracted to. Libido = how often you feel like acting on it. They’re not the same. (If they were, half the bi community would be calling in sick every morning from sheer exhaustion!)
Myth 3: Bi People Are Obsessed With Threesomes
Well, yes - a threesome could appeal to someone who’s attracted to multiple genders, just like it can appeal to folks of other sexualities. But here’s the thing: enjoying threesomes isn’t hardwired into the bi DNA. Plenty of bisexual babes find the idea about as exciting as assembling flatpack furniture.
Truth: Threesomes are a preference, not a prerequisite. Bisexual people don’t come with an instruction manual that says “insert third party here.”
Myth 4: Bisexual People Are More Likely To Cheat
Hun. No. This one’s a real doozy. Being bisexual doesn’t mean someone’s eye is constantly wandering. Fidelity isn’t about the range of people you’re attracted to; it’s about your personal values and choices. A bisexual person in a committed relationship is no more likely to stray than anyone else.
Truth: Attraction isn’t a license to cheat. If it were, every attached person would be in trouble...
Myth 5: Bisexuality Is Just A Phase
Ah, the classic “you’ll grow out of it.” For some, sure, sexuality can evolve and shift over time (and that’s valid!). But for others, bisexuality is a permanent, authentic identity. Saying it’s “just a phase” is dismissive.
Truth: Even if someone’s sexuality does shift, that doesn’t erase the reality of their bisexual identity at the time.
Myth 6: Bisexuality Is 50/50 Attraction
Some people assume bisexuality means you’re equally attracted to men and women, like you’ve got a strict quota to fill. But sexuality isn’t a pie chart. Attraction can vary wildly - more toward one gender, fluctuating over time, or influenced by context. And, crucially, bisexuality includes attraction to non-binary people too.
Truth: Bisexuality isn’t maths homework. There’s no “even split” requirement. Most of us fall in love with a person, not a gender.
Wrapping it Up With A Bow (Bi-Coloured Bunting)
So there we have it: bisexuality isn’t confusion, chaos, or a pitstop on the road to Straightsville. It’s simply another way of being gloriously, beautifully human. And the sooner we bin the tired old clichés, the sooner everyone can breathe easier, love louder, and live prouder.
This Bi Visibility Day, let’s celebrate bisexuality in all its fabulous, nuanced, and glitter-sprinkled glory. Because whoever you’re attracted to - in whatever combination, at whatever point in your life - that’s not just valid, it’s something to be proud of.
Want To Spread The Love?
🌈 Share your story on social media with the hashtag #BiVisibilityDay.
🌈 Support bi-led organisations and community groups doing vital work all year round.
🌈 Check in on the bisexual people in your life - sometimes visibility is as simple as saying, “I see you. I celebrate you.”
Because the more we speak up, show up, and cheer on bisexuality, the quicker these dusty old myths will crumble. And honestly? The world looks a whole lot brighter with a bit of bi pride shining through!
