If you're reading this, you're probably ready to introduce toys into sexy time with your bae. Are we right? (You're very welcome to read this article about the best lesbian sex toys even if you're single. A recce is an investment in your future pleasures.)
If you've already discussed introducing toys into your sex life, you're ready to start browsing for the perfect plaything. Great!
How To Introduce the Idea of Sex Toys?
If you haven't yet talked about sex toys, you need to find out if your partner is on the same page. Whipping out a dildo at an inopportune moment can go very wrong. Sorry, boo. We understand you want to be a "power" lesbian using toys (a pun on vibrators - geddit?), but your lover needs to be into it for you to become a "power couple." (We really need to stop making bad jokes. Sorry.)
Sex toys are tag-team partners. They make sex more varied, orgasms more regular, and they are fun to play with. Sort of like having a threesome with a unicorn that never wants anything for themselves. They're just happy to be of service!
Think about what kind of sex toys turn you on. Find out what your lover would like to try. Don't stress if you're not on the same wavelength yet. Flirty bartering and saucy negotiation over a glass of wine go a long way, so let it take the time it takes. Meet in the middle and look for something both of you will enjoy playing with. Keep it light and romance over what kind of pleasure you'd like to explore together.
Luckily, we've done most of the prep-work for you (you're welcome - it was definitely our pleasure!). Read on for the best sex toys for lesbian couples.
No Idea Where To Start? A Discreet Toy May Be Best.
Beginner's Level: Small Vibrators
Bullet vibrators are classics. They're inexpensive, fit into pockets and handbags, and deliver thrilling vibes at the flick of a button. Switch on the vibrations and swirl the bullet vibe all over naked skin... Delish!
Teeny-tiny sex toys for fingers are also easy to start with. They are non-intrusive but still deliver a brilliant buzz. The G-spot finger vibe (below) is perfect for lesbian lovin'. Pop the vibe onto your chosen finger, add some lube and stroke and tease in all your favourite ways...
Intermediate Level: Double-Ended Sex Toys
Double-ended sex toys are generally very popular with lesbian couples. You each have an end to play with, you get to watch your partner enjoying their end, and you get to enjoy yourself too!
The PicoBong Transformer is a long-standing crowd-pleaser for two reasons:
- It vibrates. Always a plus!
- It's flexible, so you can get up close and personal during play. Another plus!
PicoBong Transformer is a double-ended vibe with two bulbs connected by a 17-inch super flexible shaft. It boasts the title of World's First Gender-Neutral Sex Toy, which means it offers unlimited ways to play for all genders and couple combinations. #AddToBasket
Advanced Level: Strap-Ons for Lesbian Couples
If you've been playing with toys for a while, you might feel ready to take the next step and explore strap-on sex. Now, this isn't for everyone, and you can be a lesbian without ever stepping into the world of the strap-on. The great thing about sex toys is that you can pick and choose and try only the things that take your fancy!
However, if you're curious and into it, strap-on play is a hot way of giving and receiving pleasure.
First of all, you'll need a strap-on. Obvs. Choosing one together is a turn-on, and you might find juices start flowing already at this stage. There are, of course, a few things to consider. Will the strap-on harness be for both of you to share, or is it for one of you only? If you want to share a Sh! leather harness, it needs to be sized for the partner who has curvier hips. The other person simply tightens the straps when it's their turn to be the giver.
Dildos are fun to choose from, but sizing can be mind-boggling. Do the two of you agree on dildo shape & size, or does one prefer a smaller or larger toy? Over time, you'll probably end up with a fabulous collection of dildos, but small-to-medium size is a great starting point.
Still confused? Our bestselling strap-on kits have everything you need in one handy box!
