Despite the name, scissoring does not involve any sharp edges. Instead, this sexy activity is full of lush curves and soft flesh. *swoon*
Scissoring is another word for tribadism (or tribbing), a sex position most commonly enjoyed by two vulva-owning partners rubbing their genitals together for sensual stimulation.
Traditionally, scissoring is one of the most popular lesbian sex positions, so this post focuses on vulva-to-vulva play.
- Benefits of the scissoring sex position
- Trying scissoring for the first time
- Lube for scissoring
- Best sex toys for scissoring
The sky (well, your imagination and any issues with mobility that need to be considered) is the limit! If you're reading this with a different body combination than the 2 x vulvae it's written for, get wild and use your imagination for how these tips can help enhance your play. Feel free to share your tips & tricks in the comments!
Benefits of the Scissoring Sex Position
It’s estimated that around 75% of women & vulva-owners need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. This is where the scissoring position comes into its own: If you have a vulva and a clitoris, this position lets you grind & rub to your heart’s delight!
The pleasure of feeling your partner’s wet vulva (if you’re scissoring with a vulva) is immense. Mind-blowing! If you are likely to orgasm from this, fantastic! If they are also likely to orgasm from this, even better!
Scissoring is a fabulously visual experience - literally a feast for eyes, as well as for bodies.
Trying Scissoring for the First Time
Try lying side by side with your legs wrapped around each other, or one lying on top of the other, or maybe sitting wide-legged with your vulvae touching. The idea is that you should be able to grind together with your legs in a scissors position. Experiment until you find the position that works best for you both.
Our best tip here is to set a slow pace. Bear in mind you might be rubbing against each other for a while, and going in all hot & heavy will wear you out. Also, be sure to grind sensually against your lover - this is not a one-way ticket to Pound Town, babes! Smashing into your partner may seem sexy initially, but could bruise their (or your own) pubic area, ending the fun.
So, set your playlist to SLOW & SEXY (search Spotify for playlists for inspiration, or make your own) and get bodies and minds into the groove for a long, slow, wet dance.
Best Lubes for Scissoring
Make sure to have a good lubricant on hand (and bodies), and don’t be stingy with the liquid – you can never be too wet when you are gliding together.
Dry skin and coarse body hair can irritate the delicate vulva, which is always best avoided!
We recommend lube bottles that offer a one-handed pump-dispenser, and keep it within arm’s reach. This way, you can easily add more (…and then more) without disruptions, allowing you to focus on the hot action. If the lube gets tacky, just add a splash of water to make everything slip-slidey again.
Silicone lube is also great for scissoring as its long-lasting oily feel doesn’t dry up as fast as water-based lubes. If your bodies are not used to silicone lube, we recommend doing a patch test before going on a long ride together.
Best Sex Toys for Scissoring
Sex toys favoured for scissoring tend to be toys that can be enjoyed by two partners simultaneously. Of course, this depends on how you scissor, but let’s imagine legs entwined and vulvae close together. Ensure lube is free-flowing, and take a break if you need to. Scissoring can be tiring - but rewarding - work!
A wand vibrator adds WOWZER thrills to a scissoring session!
Place the vibrating massage ball between you and cuddle up close. This way, each body gets its fair share. Set the thrilling vibrations to a pleasure mode that works for both.
If you both love scissoring and vibes, you can’t go wrong with this clit-pleasing combo!
This well-designed panty vibrator is sensationally-shaped for slipping between scissoring bodies.
Coat all relevant body & vibrator parts in slick lube (no chafing, please) before placing the grooved side of the toy in-between the labia lips of one partner.
The other partner positions themselves for optimum stimulation, and you both rub, rock, and grind against the deep thrills… Next stop: Orgasm Town!
We-Vibe Sync Lite is a delicious addition when rubbing up close together.
One person ‘wears’ the Sync Lite, with the slimmer arm slipping inside their vagina. The larger arm curves over the vulva and delivers clitoral vibrations to the wearer. The partner wraps their legs around the wearer, ensuring the buzz hits just the right place...
Whether you're a curious first-timer or a seasoned grind queen, scissoring is a sensual, intimate, and hella hot way to connect with your partner. It's not about acrobatics - it's about finding the rhythm, the angle, and the energy that feels just right for both of you.
So grab your fave lube, maybe a toy or two, queue up that slow & sexy playlist and let the sparks fly. And remember: there’s no one right way to scissors - just the way that brings you the most pleasure.
