Most couples have their tried & tested go-to positions for sex. You start in one, move to a second and finish in a third – with something extra fancy for birthdays and Christmas. That’s usually how it goes.
As long as you’re having fun, there is no need to be swinging from the chandeliers or attempting the Wheelbarrow position. Which, incidentally, is uncomfortable and makes sex harder than it needs to be. But even so, standard sex positions can be made spicier with a few simple changes.
So, read on for sex tips for switching up and boosting pleasure in your go-to sex positions.
Tips to Spice Up Oral Sex
Oral sex can easily be boosted with some light kink thrown into the mix:
Do you enjoy the feeling of submission? If so, kneeling before your partner can be the ultimate thrill. Grab a cushion to protect your knees, and make sure your partner is comfortable. The receiver can stand up or sit with their legs spread wide apart in front of you.
Or, if you prefer to be in control, try tying them up. For extra fun, you could also blindfold your partner. Ask for a safeword, check-in with them regularly and make sure they’re comfortable and still having fun.
Tease and please, make them beg for your attention.
For extra dom points: An orgasm can only happen with your explicit permission.
Tips to Spice Up 69 Position:
The top-to-toe oral sex position, aka 69, where you feast on each others' delicious bits is a huge favourite with many couples.
If kneeling over your partner's face is too hard, simply moving into a gentler version of the same position will make all the difference. By laying on your sides and nestling against each other, you’ll be able to give and receive pleasure simultaneously. If your jaw or neck needs a break, use fingers or a small vibe to tease instead.
Tip to Spice-Up Missionary Position:
We often hear people dissing the missionary sex position as ‘dull’ and ‘vanilla.' We strongly disagree! With a couple of easy moves, the missionary sex position can become your trusted go-to position for both sensual and kinky play.
For a more sensual version, the partner on top lifts themselves a little, resting their pubic bone against your pubic bone. For a female-bodied person, this change delivers pressure over the clitoral area. By rocking pelvises together, the chances of a thunderous orgasm suddenly become much higher!
Doing it kinky style is very easy: the top places their weight (or most of it) on the bottom, holding their wrists firmly above their head. This way, the bottom experiences submissive helplessness; all they can do is lie back and let the pleasure wash over them.
For extra playfulness, a struggle can be sexy. The dominant partner (on top) uses their power to keep the struggling partner in place. To make sure all play is consensual, agree on a safe word first.
Want to switch it up even more? Introduce an intercourse-enhancing vibrator to your missionary position! The added ( and foccussed) clitoral stimulation will help her orgasm.
Tips to Spice-Up Partner on Top:
Having a partner riding you is super-sexy. You get to watch & feel them move in ways that feel best for them. Lay-back-and-watch-the-show sorta-thing… *Fans self*
The partner on top has several options:
- Bounce up & down for a fierce workout
- Rock back & forth for deep, grinding pleasure
- Lean back for intense pressure against G-spot or prostate
- Hop on back-to-front, so your partner gets a great view of your bum
Switching up partner-on-top sex is easy: Slip a vibrating cock ring over the penis or dildo to deliver dedicated clitoral stimulation that she can grind against.
Tips to Spice Up Doggy Style:
There are many reasons to love doggy style sex, and it’s a firm favourite with many couples.
Women & vulva-owning partners will enjoy intense G-spot pleasure as the dildo or penis rhythmically strokes in & out. If the receiving partner is male-bodied, the dildo or penis will offer the same sensations against the prostate (a highly erotic area inside the rectum).
The feeling of being in control and delivering off-the-scale pleasure is an amazing boost for the giver. (The fantastic view is a bonus!) Feeling submissive and ‘under control’ can be an immense turn-on for the receiving partner.
Switch up the doggy style position by playfully spanking the receiver’s bum, or gently insert a lubed-up finger into their butt for a beginner’s version of double-penetration. Always check with your partner though - no one likes a surprise in the place where the sun doesn’t shine...
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