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Pesky Gag Reflexes And How To Improve Your Blow Job Confidence

Pesky Gag Reflexes And How To Improve Your Blow Job Confidence

An easily triggered gag reflex can put a stop to the fanciest of blow jobs. Trust us, we know all about it. We haven't yet botched the finishing line by vomiting over the genitals of a bemused partner, but we've heard the stories. Some receivers love nothing better than the sounds of wet gagging during a blow job, but they're living dangerously...

We once had one very determined customer who refused to give herself a break during a blow job class. We applauded her willpower, but a team member was standing by with a bucket and a mop. It was that close.

Below are our best tips if you're set on sucking your gag reflexes into submission. We recommend regular training with a toy (or penis) of a comfortable size.

Tips to stop you gagging during blowjobs

Some swear they can control their gag reflex by folding their thumb into the palm of the hand and squeezing as hard as possible. Others make a fist and press it into the area just below their sternum. These tips work on the assumption that if your brain is otherwise engaged, it forgets to tell your gag reflex it's feeling triggered. Give it a go, and let us know if it works for you!

Health & Safety for BJ's: Make sure that whatever you use is safe for practice. Choose a toy or fresh produce with a flared base and no loose parts that could fall into your mouth unexpectedly. If your eyes start to well up, it's time to withdraw and breathe deeply until you have it under control. 

Let us also remind you that the aim of the blow job game isn't to take the penis as deep as possible. Deep-throating is an advanced, hardcore act and not everyone's cuppa tea. You can give amazing blowjobs without ever taking a dique deep into your throat. A great blow job is about communication, having a good idea about anatomy and being confident enough to laugh and move on if something goes wrong (teeth can get in the way, peeps - it happens!).

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How to perform a great blow job

Surprise your partner with a sensational blow job by signing up for our Mindblowing BJs Course! This is an online sex course for anyone who wants to amplify fun and pleasure by mastering the fine art of fellatio. Led by fantastic sex educator Evie, Mindblowing BJ's consists of 9 sessions with fun homework in between. The course is virtual, so you can watch the sessions whenever suits you, and you don't need a penis-owning partner to take it - a cucumber will do just fine!

Book your blow job course here!

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