Q&A: What Size Dildo Do Women Prefer?

Do women prefer their sex toys (dildos) larger than their partner? - Sh! Women's Store

Hi Sh!

I have an awkward question. I want to buy my girlfriend a dildo, but I'm unsure of the best size. My penis is not big. My girlfriend says she's not into large d*cks, but I'm not sure I believe her. Bigger is better, isn't it? Should I get her a big dildo?

Hi there,

Thanks for getting in touch. Can we just point out how smart you are to reach out to a sex shop for women with this question! It's not awkward at all - we're super happy to answer this :) We've been asked this question so many times - and always from male customers. Women are, believe it or not, less preoccupied with size.

Do Women Like Big Dildos?

Honestly it's a fallacy (and the subject of in-our-view many boring jokes) that women prefer big dildos and big penises. Bigger definately doesn't mean better. Size is subjective. For some, a big-size dildo will be all their Christmases & birthdays rolled into one. For others - their worst nightmare.

Our best-selling dildo is 6 inches long by 1.5 inch diameter - hardly a whopper!

What is 'big' anyway? Porn often show huge dildos enthusiastically plunged into open orifices, but don't forget that porn actresses are sexual athletes and they may have been prepping for that big-dildo-scene for a long time. For someone who isn't a sexual athlete, 'big' might be two or three fingers' worth of girth. That's plenty.

Vagina vs Right Size Dildo

Just like penises, vaginas come in a variety of sizes. Some are narrow, and others are wider. Some vaginas are long, and others are shorter. We have customers who know they need a large-size dildo to feel fulfilled and satisfied. Others buy the smallest size dildo because that is what feels best for them.

The great thing about dildos is that you can pick any size or shape that piques your interest. It's about finding a shape and size that works for you, or the person who will be enjoying it.

Our advice is to trust your girlfriend when she says the size of your penis is enough for her.

Dildo vs Penis

We wouldn't advise going for a bigger size unless she has specifically said she'd like a dildo that is longer or girthier. Instead, choose something with similar dimensions as your penis, or perhaps a tad smaller. Dildos don't bend and move the same way as a penis. A sex toy that is too big will be uncomfortable and not sexy to play with.

Buying A Dildo As a Gift

So, we know you want to buy a dildo for your girlfriend. Can we ask if she has mentioned wanting to explore internal toys before? And has she shared whether she's curious about vibration or would prefer a non-vibrating toy for penetrative pleasures?

There are so many fun toys to choose from, and we recommend taking some time to find out what she's interested in trying before making your purchase. We're not saying to not buy a dildo - far from it! We're saying: Take time to explore the options to ensure you get a toy that she'll love playing with.

Types Of Dildos

Silicone dildos are a body-friendly choice. Silicone is non-porous and hypoallergenic, which means they are easy to clean. Silicone warms up to body temperature and is firm yet flexible. In use, slimmer silicone dildos will follow the natural curve of the vagina, making play super-comfortable.

All our hand-poured dildos come as vibrating dildos too. These are perfect if you think your girlfriend would like a thrilling buzz :) The vibrating dildos feature small vibrating bullets that can be inserted into the dildo base - or enjoyed for clits and nipples.

Honey G-Spot Dildo in Blue Marble Silicone

Glass dildos are gorgeous but perhaps not the best option for newbies. Glass is a material that is unyielding, which means they don't bend or flex. Firm sex toys are an acquired taste.

Like silicone, glass toys are non-porous and hypoallergenic. Glass is fun for temperature play as it can be warmed up or cooled down.

Steel sex toys are super-smooth and sexy to play with. However, like glass, steel doesn't bend and we'd recommend this material for experienced sex toy aficionados. Steel toys are an investment but last forever.

Is your girlfriend into anal play? If so, you might like to choose a dildo that can be used for anal sex as well. Any toy destined for the butt must have a flared base or handle to ensure it doesn't get sucked up into the rectum. All our handmade dildos are safe for anal play, thanks to their heart-shaped bases,

Would she prefer a vibrator or a dildo?

Sometimes, when customers say 'dildo,' they mean vibrator.

A dildo is a toy that is designed especially for penetrative pleasures. They are usually designed without vibration (though we offer vibrating dildos, as mentioned above) and can be used handheld or in a strap-on.

A vibrator, on the other hand, is designed to deliver vibrating stimulation, which many women prefer over simple penetration, as its more likely to make them orgasm (70-80% of women need clitoral stimulation to climax). These can be for clitoral use, G-spot play or dual stimulation options. There are even vibrators designed especially for couples.