"Hi Sh!

I want to buy my girlfriend a dildo, but I’m not sure what size to choose. My penis isn’t very big. She says she’s not into large penises, but I’m not sure I believe her. Bigger is better… right? Should I get her a big dildo?"

Thanks so much for getting in touch. And honestly? You’re smart to ask a women-led sex shop this question 💜

We hear this all the time — and almost always from men. The good news? There’s a lot less pressure around size than pop culture & porn would have you believe.

Do Women Like Dildos?

Yes — many women enjoy dildos, but not all, and not all in the same way.

Some women love penetrative toys. Others prefer external stimulation, vibration, or a mix of both. Enjoying (or not enjoying) dildos is completely individual — and it can change over time.

What matters most isn’t the toy itself, but how it feels to the person using it.

Enjoyment depends on:

• Experience level

• Personal anatomy

• Arousal

• Comfort and lubrication

• Whether penetration is something they already enjoy

Do Women Enjoy Dildos?

Many do — when the size, shape and material are right for them.

Dildos can:

• Enhance solo pleasure

• Add variety to partnered sex

• Help people explore internal sensations at their own pace

But enjoyment depends on comfort, confidence, and choosing a dildo that suits their body — not on following a size myth.

What Size Dildo Do Women Prefer?

There is no single “best” dildo size.

Women’s preferences vary widely, just like bodies do. Some enjoy slimmer, shorter dildos. Others like more fullness or length. Many prefer something in the middle.

That’s why the question “what size dildo do women prefer?” doesn’t have one answer — because women aren’t a monolith.

Do Women Like Big Dildos?

Some do. Many prefer average or smaller sizes.

For lots of women, “big” can feel like too much — particularly if the dildo is rigid or poorly shaped. Comfort often matters more than size, especially for beginners.

The idea that women universally prefer big penises or big dildos is a myth — and a tired one at that. Bigger does not automatically mean better. Size is completely subjective.

For some people, a large dildo is thrilling and deeply satisfying. For others, it’s uncomfortable, intimidating, or simply not pleasurable. One person’s dream toy is another’s worst nightmare.

To put this into perspective:
👉 Our best-selling dildo is around 6 inches long with a 1.5-inch diameter.
Hardly enormous - but consistently loved.

Best Dildo Size: What Actually Works?

If you’re wondering about the best size dildo, here’s what we see most often:

👉 A medium-sized dildo is the most popular choice.

Typically:

• Around 5–6 inches insertable length

• Around 1.25–1.5 inches in diameter

This size range works for many bodies because it:

• Feels full without being overwhelming

• Is comfortable for most experience levels

• Allows for relaxed, pleasurable penetration

In fact, this is why many best-selling dildos fall into this category.

What Size Dildo Should I Choose?

If you’re buying a dildo — for yourself or someone else — consider:

• What kind of pleasure they already enjoy

• Whether they’re new to penetrative toys

• Whether flexibility matters (silicone vs more rigid materials such as glass or metal)

• Whether vibration is important

When in doubt, smaller or medium is usually a safer choice than going big.

Final Answer: Do Women Like Dildos & Big Dildos?

• Yes, many women like dildos

• No, bigger isn’t better

• Comfort, shape and sensation matter more than size

• The “best dildo size” is the one that feels good for that person

Pleasure isn’t about measurements — it’s about listening to bodies, not myths.

Final Advice

If your girlfriend says she doesn’t want something big, believe her.
The best sex toys aren’t about size — they’re about how they feel.

And if you’re still unsure? That’s exactly what we’re here for.

Best wishes,
Team Sh! xx