'Hi Sh!,
I'm a 31 year old male virgin. I masturbate every day, sometimes more than once. I really enjoy it, but can't seem to get rid of the slight guilty feeling I've always had. Even after raising it with friends and them saying it's fine, I still feel the same. Is it too much? How can I stop feeling guilty? Thanks.'
Hello,
Thanks for getting in touch!
Masturbation is a natural and healthy part of human sexuality. It's something that most people do, yet it's still a topic that is often shrouded in shame and guilt. In this blog post, we're going to address those feelings of guilt and help you understand that there is absolutely nothing wrong with pleasuring yourself.
Why do people feel guilty about masturbation?
There are many reasons why people feel guilty about masturbation. Society has long perpetuated the idea that masturbation is dirty, sinful, or immoral. Religious beliefs, cultural norms, and personal experiences can all contribute to feelings of guilt. Additionally, misinformation and lack of education about sexuality can also play a role in these negative emotions.
Understanding the benefits of masturbation
Masturbation is not only a pleasurable experience, but it also has numerous benefits for both physical and mental health. It can help reduce stress, improve sleep, boost mood, and enhance self-esteem. Masturbation is a natural way to explore your own body and discover what feels good for you. It can also be a healthy way to release sexual tension and learn about your own desires and preferences.
Dispelling the myths
One of the first steps in overcoming guilt about masturbation is to dispel the myths and misconceptions surrounding it. Masturbation is not a dirty or shameful act. It does not cause physical harm, nor does it have any negative impact on your relationships or sexual performance. It is a personal choice and a normal part of human sexuality.
Embracing self-acceptance and self-love
It's important to remember that your body belongs to you, and you have the right to explore and enjoy it in whatever way feels right for you. Masturbation is a form of self-care and self-love. By embracing self-acceptance and letting go of guilt, you can develop a healthier and more positive relationship with your own sexuality.
Prepare for partnered sex
Masturbation can help you prepare for partnered sex. You might no feel ready yet, or maybe you haven't yet met The One, but masturbation teaches you about your body and how it receives pleasure. This can only be a good thing for when you eventually decide to invite someone else to share your pleasure.
Masturbation with sex toys
You don't mention if you have tried sex toys, but we wouldn't be Sh! if we didn't at least mention it :p
How about introducing some fun toys into your self-pleasure play? We know many men like to use hand cream or body lotion, but what about lube? Lube offers a 'moist' sensation and you can even explore tingling or warming sensations!
If you've never tried an masturbation egg, we recommend giving one of these Satisfyer Eggs a spin. There are lots of different textures to choose from, and as they're reusable, they are eggcellent value for money!
Many men enjoy prostate massage during sex (solo or partnered) and if this is something that piques your interest, take a look at this blog post about how to find the P-spot and play safely.
Ditch the guilt!
Masturbation is a natural and normal part of human sexuality. It's time to let go of the guilt and shame that society has placed upon it. Embrace self-acceptance, educate yourself about your own body, and seek support if needed. Remember, there is absolutely nothing wrong with pleasuring yourself and exploring your own desires. It's time to reclaim your sexuality and enjoy the many benefits that masturbation can bring.
Best Wishes,
Team Sh! xx
