Hey, so I don't really know if I have a problem but I didn't know who to ask. I think I sext too much. Like I sext my SO when we're in the same house. It's not like we don't have sex, we do and it's good but sometimes I feel like I'm sexting instead of having sex and I don't understand why I want this so much. My SO hasn't said anything yet, I think he enjoys it but I worry that he's going to get bored of this or start feeling like our real sex life isn't enough?
What should I do? How do I know if I'm sexting too much?
Am I Sexting Too Much?
This is an interesting question!
Sexting is super common, and as you've discovered, it can be great fun.
From your email, it doesn't sound like your sexting habit is impacting your relationship. We're guessing your man is as happy as you are.
Communication is a crucial part of relationships and sex. If you are worried about how your partner feels about your sexy messages, we'd say to ask him. Bring it up in a low-key way; you're just checking in with him.
What do you love about sexting?
- Is sexting all about fantasy?
- Do you feel more comfortable expressing your desires through sexting?
- Is it the feeling of having a cheeky little secret between you?
The fantasy aspect of sexting can make it easier to say or do things we might feel uncomfortable expressing. Is that something you would like to work on with your partner?
Would you be interested in an app-control sex toy that could be operated from a distance by your partner? If you get a thrill out of interrupting what he's doing, then maybe you'd enjoy it in the form of an unexpected buzz from him!
The point is: As long as the sexting enhances your relationship rather than damaging it, this is not a problem. Enjoy your sexting, get creative, and indulge your sexty habit!
(Oh, and remember to always double-check the contact before you press send!)
Love,
Team Sh! xx
