Hi Team,
My wife and I are looking for a strap-on but with a thin-ish dildo. Is there anything you might recommend? It’s quite difficult; I'm 67 and she is a young 49-year-old. It’s not that I am not wet, but I think the ‘size’ matters so I wondered whether there were any slimmer versions you would recommend? Any guidance is very welcome. Many thanks in advance!

Hello there, 

Many thanks for your email!

You are quite right - size matters, even if it isn't for the reason many think ('bigger is better'). As we age, our vaginas shrink and lose elasticity. This means anything on the larger side (which is subjective anyway), can be uncomfortable or even painful.

We measure dildo size in 'fingers' - 1 finger / 1.5 fingers / 2 fingers and so on. We don't know how many fingers you are comfortable with, but we'll suggest some slimmer sizes for you to look at. 

Wirly 1 is our slimmest dildo. It's about 1 finger in girth with soft silicone ribs along the shaft. The heart-shaped base ensures Wirly 1 (and all our silicone dildos) can be used in a strap-on. Choose between pink, pink marble or black colour. 

Now, depending on your and your wife's curves, and what position you both favour, a slightly longer dildo offers more versatility. If you have lush tums and bums, a shorter dildo may not cut it. 

MEDIUM-LENGTH STRAP-ON DILDO 

Wirly 2 is 5.25 inches long, giving you more to play with. At 1.1 inches wide, this is also a slim dildo - about 1.5 fingers in girth. It's lightweight and pairs well with all our strap-on harnesses.

Like all Sh! dildos, Wirly 2 is hand-poured in our dildo lab in East  London. Silicone is the best material for all your sex toys. It's non-porous and hypoallergenic, and if it's looked after well, your dildo will give pleasure for many years.

Wirly 2 is available in five colours: Pink, marble pink, purple, black, and blue. For an extra £2, you can also get Wirly 2 in pure white or glamorous gold.
This shape & size is one of our most popular dildos - enough to feel sexy without offering 'too much'! 

VIBRATING STRAP-ON DILDOS 

Also, for an additional thrill, Wirly 2 silicone strap-on dildo is available as a vibrating version. Our vibrating dildos are great fun for women & vulva owners who need extra clitoral stimulation to orgasm. The giver (the person wearing the strap-on) gets vibration over her pubic area (win!) and the receiver feels the buzz internally, through the dildo shaft.

LONG, SLIM STRAP-ON DILDO 

Wirly 3 is another popular dildo. This flexible dildo is perfect for those who want a long, slim strap-on toy. The extra length is great for lovers who are plus-size or who enjoy adventurous positions (Wheelbarrow!).

Wirly 3 about 2 fingers in girth (1.25 inches) and 7 inches long. The extra length lends itself to deep vaginal or anal penetration. If you like your A-spot or cervix stimulated during penetration, this dildo could be for you. 
Choose between four colours: Pink, pink marble, purple or black). Like the shorter Wirly 2, Wirly 3 is available as a vibrating option. 

STRAP-ON EXTRAS

Many strap-on wearers want something fun for themselves while they're pleasuring their partner. If your wife fits into this category, we have a couple of fabulous extras.

First off, the dual dildo strap-on accessory. This leather cuff straps a second dildo onto a Sh! harness, so the wearer can enjoy penetration at the same time she is penetrating you - clever! The dual dildo accessory can be positioned for vaginal or anal penetration.

If penetration isn't for her, a grind pad might be better. Bananapants dildo bases are soft & supple cushions that have been designed to protect the delicate pubic area during strap-on play, as well as offer a hump to bump and grind against. These sensual grinders stretch to fit dildo bases up to 3.25 inches.

Choose between Bumpher, B-Cush, Shagger, and Honeybunch. 

LUBE FOR STRAP-ON DILDOS

Sh! Pure Plus is water-based, non-runny and longer-lasting than regular water-based lubricants. It comes out almost like a gel, and stays thick and slick, leaving no sticky residue as it gets spread around.

The website product description has the word 'anal' in it but don't worry about this. It's marketing speak for 'long-lasting' :) We recommend this lube for women and vulva owners with dryness issues. You don't mention this - in fact, you mentioned that you get wet - but sex toys can suck up a bit of natural juices so extra moisture is always recommended. Plus - if you have lots of fun (long session!) you may need some extra anyway! Lucky you!

We hope this helps! 

Best Wishes, 
Team Sh! xx