Q&A: I've Only Ever Had One Orgasm-What Toys Do You Advise?

Only One Orgasm - What Toys Do You Advise?

Hi,

I'd like to ask for your help in a serious matter. I've been married for 20 years and have only ever had one orgasm when I was much younger. I'm desperate to put things right and think that I need help by buying a vibrator and any books on the subject that might help me. I had one once before but didn't get on well with it, it was noisy and although pleasant never helped me reach orgasm. I might need something like the Lelo Ina but I was really hoping to get some advice! Many thanks x

Hey there,

Thanks for getting in touch!

This is a super-common question. We meet so many (so many!) women who find it near-impossible to have an orgasm. For a woman, having an orgasm is very much a learned thing. It involves the whole woman - body & mind.

Learning to have an orgasm is better without a partner present, so we recommend taking some 'me-time.'

Tools for 'me-time'

You need to be really turned on, and a sexy book or film can help get the juices flowing. Check out audio sites like Dipsea for good material.

A bottle of lube is essential. Lube makes your vulva nice and slick, and it also heightens sensitivity.

A clitoral enhancer can make a huge difference. Arousal gel increases blood flow to your bits, plumping up your vulva and clitoris. This helps make them more responsive.

Pelvic floor control can help improve orgasms, so grab a cuppa and learn about kegel exercises here.

Next on the tick-list for orgasmic pleasures are vibrators. Vibes oscillate at around 200 oscillations per minute and can work wonders for orgasms.

We usually recommend first-time buyers opt for something purse-friendly, like our popular rabbit vibrator. This way, you can find out if vibrators are for you and if you prefer clitoral stimulation or blended internal & external pleasure without spending £££.

Becoming Orgasmic

Also, we have a great online pleasure course called Becoming Orgasmic.

This course is designed to encourage self-pleasure and exploration and will help you gain a better understanding of how your body works. These skills are essential for building great sexual experiences, by yourself or with your partner.