Hi Sh!
I would like some advice if you can. I never orgasm by penetration, but I do by clitoral stimulation. The strength and pleasure of the orgasm are vastly increased by penetration. Is there anything I can do to improve vaginal sex? Can you help me?
Hello there,
Many thanks for your email – and we’ll do our best!
This is one of the most common questions we get asked. The good news is that there are several ways to increase pleasure and orgasm potential during penetrative sex.
Around 75-80% of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. This means most of us need to have our magic beans rubbed in just the right way, or a climax won’t happen. Unfortunately, penetration alone doesn't usually provide this ( which is why you're not alone; 75-80% of women also don't orgasm through penetration alone)
But - bear with us. We have some tips for you...
Having orgasms during penetration is possible but takes a bit of work. It makes sense that your orgasms are more intense when the vagina has something to clench around – this is often the case.
Sex positions for easier orgasms during penetration
Try positions that offer more clitoral contact. We recommend woman-on-top, as it lets your bump and grind in ways that feel good for you.
Another good position for this is the CAT-aligned, which is sensual and sexy. Have your partner position themselves on top (missionary position). Then ask them to lift themselves a bit higher on your body, making sure that their pubic bone grinds against your clitoris. Instead of thrusting, they then go on to treat you to a grinding, rubbing rollercoaster of pleasure, and you might find this takes you all the way to orgasm.
Vibrators can help you have orgasms
A small, non-intrusive vibrator can make all the difference. A small bullet vibrator or finger vibe can be a fun, discreet addition, that you or your partner can simply press against ypur clitoris during intercourse.
If you prefer something hands-free, we recommend giving We-Vibe a go.
This clever couples vibrator has been designed to fit against the G-spot and the clitoris whilst still allowing space for a penis or dildo to slip in too. We-Vibes are bestsellers, and we can see why!
We-Vibe Unite and We-Vibe Sync are both excellent toys. Unite has a standard remote, which make changing up intensity as you get closer a doddle. Sync is adjustable, so you can tailor the fit to your unique cuves.
We are huge fans of remote control toys for couples. This type of sex toy is fun but also makes it so much easier to amp up sensations.
A strong pelvic floor = strong orgasms
A strong pelvic floor helps increase both the number and intensity of orgasms, so make sure to practice your Kegel exercises regularly. If (like us) you find Kegels too dull or forget to do them, we have an idea for making it more fun. Do them whilst you masturbate!
Doing your squeezes whilst playing with your clit will likely result in an orgasm (win!) plus better control of your pelvic floor (double win!). A pair of Kegal Balls add to your exercise regime, as well as deliver pleasure for your G-spot.
How to have G-spot orgasms
The G-spot often plays a big part for those who enjoy vaginal orgasms. The G-spot is an erogenous zone located at the front wall of your vagina, and it grows in size when you get turned on.
By stimulating the clitoris and the G-spot simultaneously, you can go on to enjoy what is known as ‘blended orgasms.' Rabbit vibrators do this job marvellously, but you can use fingers too. Or, fingers on the clitoris, and a penis or dildo internally – there are many variations, so pick whichever suits you best.
Over time, you cut down on the clitoral stimulation, a couple of seconds at a time. As you are about to climax, stop stimulating the clitoris earlier and earlier each time, but carry on pleasuring the G-spot. Over time, your body will learn how to have G-spot/vaginal orgasms this way.
We hope this helps!
Best Wishes,
Team Sh! xx
