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Lilac Sex Toys For Beginners

Discover your perfect first sex toy. We've curated a selection of our best non-intimidating, easy-to-use toys for newbies. Read our beginner's guides or ask our all-female (100% human!) team for tailored advice.

First toy for solo:

Buying a first sex toy can be exciting, but also intimidating (SO much choice!) If you've never tried a sex toy and are a complete beginner, we recommend something small and easy to use. For vulva-owners a bullet vibrator is a good first vibe. About the size of a finger, a bullet vibe is perfect to pleasure the clitoris (the epicentre of female orgasm) and slip just inside the opening of the vagina. For penis-owners, we recommend a Tenga Egg - a fun mastabator which will add extra stimulation to hand-jobs.

First toy for couples:

What sex toys couple’s enjoy is multi-fold! but a finger vibe is a good all-round first sex toy for couples of all gender combinations, adding a thrilling buzz everywhere you touch. A vibrating cock ring is another good starter toy for adding hands-free clit stimulation during intercourse - and of course, the all-important bottle of water-based lube should be in your basket too!

Anal beginners:

Beginners to anal sex should start SMALL – the bum is an area where all sensations feel particularly magnified, believe us! Beginner’s Butt Plug might be the place to start, plus some (lots of!) anal lube, of course…

Beginner's strap-on:

Buying your first stap-on should be all about excitement and pleasure, never about a too big dildo (the most usual mistake newbie’s make). First strap-on kit maybe the place to start...

Explore at Your Own Pace

There’s no right way to begin — just what feels right for you.

Whether you’re curious about vibration, exploring anal play, or trying something new with a partner, starting small and staying curious is the key to discovering what you enjoy.

And if you ever want a bit of guidance? Our friendly team is always here to help.

Quickie Advice for Beginners

COST:

We don't recommend spending £££'s, as a pricey can mean over-the-top expectations. Every body is is different. There is no magic 'one-toy-suits-all' Until you've tried a sex toy, and got your starting point, it's impossible to know what will thrill you.

SOUND:

A loud toy may put you off enjoying it fully. You can feel self-conscious the first time you play with a sex toy (especially in a shared house) so for beginners we recommend looking at quiet toys...

BULLETS:

Often our No1 recomendation as a first toy for women. Why? Because, they're inexpensive, clit-pleasing (KEY to female orgasm) & powerful so you get the full vibe experience ( if it feels too much, use over your underwear) Can also be used to explore just inside the vaginal entrance - where most vaginal nerve-endings found.

CLITS:

If you find orgasms elusive or have never had an orgasm - or if you already know you love clitoral stimulation - an easy-to-use clitoral toy could be a good first sex toy for you.

INSIDE:

A rabbit vibe might be a good first toy; allowing you to explore internal pleasure, whilst also getting all-important clit stimulation too :) Downsides? Could feel complicated for first-timers & can be expensive.

PENISES:

An egg masturbator is a great first toy as a playful way to jazz up hand-jobs/ Inexpensive and super-stretchy so they fit all penis sizes and shapes. Billed as ' single-use' altho you can wash & re-use.

BUTTS:

Two things to look for, when looking for a first anal toy: EASY TO USE & SMALL (always start small as everything feels magnified up the bum!) Never use a regular vibe - anal toys are specially designed to be safe (not get lost up there!)

COUPLES:

Playful, un-intimidating toys are best for first-time playing together, as a couple. Make sure your partner feels included (not criticised or replaced!) Read how to introduce a sex toy to your partner to find out more...

First Sex Toy: Beginner FAQ'S

Is it normal to use a sex toy?

Completely. People of all ages and backgrounds use toys to explore their bodies, learn what feels good, and enhance pleasure - solo or with a partner.

How do I choose the right one?

Ask yourself: Do I want gentle or intense? External, internal, or both? Quiet and discreet? There's no perfect choice just a starting point. You'll learn what you like as you go.

What if I feel awkward or unsure?

That's totally normal. Take your time, stay curious, and keep things light. This is about yourexperience. No expectations, no pressure.

Is it safe to use my sex toy regularly?

Yes. There's no such thing as 'too much', as long as your body feels good and comfortable and you're receiving pleasure. Just listen to body and take breaks if you feel sensitive.

Do I have to use it internally?

Not. At All. In fact most women/vulva-owners use their vibrator externally, whatever stage of sex-toy expertise they're at.

Will using a toy make it harder to enjoy other types of pleasure?

No. Toys don't replace anything they expand your options. Think of them as learning tools for your own pleasure.

Can I use it with a partner?

Absolutely. Toys can be a playful, connecting addition if everyone involved is comfortable and consenting.

How do I clean my toy?

Wash before and after use with warm water + mild soap or special sex toy cleaner, being careful not to get water inside any battery area or recharging point.

Dry fully with a lint-free cloth or better- leave to air dry.

Store in a clean & dry place (with recharging cable)

Note: If a vibrating toy waterproof, it's very easy to clean.

Do I need lube?

Highly recommended.

Lube:
-Reduces friction.
- Makes everything feel smoother and more comfortable.
- Helps you relax into the experience.

Water-based lube is the safest all-rounder for beginners

What setting should I start with?

Low and steady is your friend. Explore gradually: Start on the lowest vibration. Notice what feels good. Build up if (and only if) you want to. There s no rush.

Will it hurt?

It shouldn't. It should feel pleasurable (that's the whole point;) Always use lube with your toy as it adds glide - a 'draggy' sex toy experience isn't pleasant.

Vibrations can sometimes feel 'too much' - not exactly painful - more 'over sensitive' - if this happens move your vibe away from clit - give your clitoris a breather...

Internal toys can hurt if they are too big for your body. That's why it's a good idea for beginner's to start small, until are confident of the best size of penetrative toy (whether vaginal or anal) for them.

Remember - your body sets the pace, always.

Sex toys for beginners - Easy to use first sex toys - Sh! Women's Store

What to look for when buying your first toy..

Feeling confused by all the different sex toys out there? That’s totally normal. If you’re buying your first toy, the amount of choice can feel overwhelming, but getting started is actually simpler than it seems.

A good first step is to stick with what feels familiar.

If you’ve never used a toy before, choosing something that matches the kind of stimulation you already enjoy can help you feel more confident. You don’t need anything complicated- simple designs are often the easiest and most enjoyable for beginners.

Ask yourself: what do I like, or what am I curious about trying?

For most clit-owners, clitoral stimulation is the best place to start. If you’ve never had an orgasm, or if they’re sometimes hard to reach, a clitoral vibrator is a good first toy because it’s easy to use and focuses on the kind of pleasure that most women need to orgasm.

Our beginner guides cover all different aspects of choosing a first sex toy to help you choose something that feels right for you - no expert knowledge required!

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Lilac Sex Toys For Beginners

Cupid 3 Curved Silicone Dildo

Beginners Butt Plug 1

Beaded Butt Plug 3

Oh My Gem Enrapture Warming Vibe

First toy for solo:

First toy for couples:

Anal beginners:

Beginner's strap-on: