Dear Team Sh!
My friend has recommended you.
I'm in a 'situationship' but it's nothing serious. We have fun together, but I rarely have orgasms. It happens more when I'm on my own, but not all the time. I'm feeling a bit brave and I think I'm ready to buy my first vibrator (eek!). I've looked at the vibrator advice pages - but there are so many!
What is the best starting vibe for a complete novice? I usually masturbate by rubbing against my clit. And I guess I should get some lube too.
Hello,
Great to hear from you - your friend knows where to get good vibes! :P
We have a selection of fun and easy-to-use vibrators for newbies. Let's look at the best first vibrators.
Pebble vibrators for clitoral stimulation
It's helpful that you have specified your preferred method of masturbating - this helps us create a tailored list of suitable vibrators for you. We'll pick out a few vibes you can use by rubbing them against your vulva.
Our first suggestion is Dory Finger Vibe. Dory slips over a finger and by turning it around so the vibe pad sits on the inside of your finger, you can rub this toy against your clit. Dory has 9 powerful modes and will help orgasms become more frequent.
Finger vibes can easily be introduced into couple's play too. One of you can slip the small vibe over a finger and stroke and hold it against the clitoral area. This boosts your chances of having an orgasm while with a partner.
Fiona is a feisty pebble-style vibe. This clit vibe is easy to hold and use. The ergonomic design sits neatly and comfortably between the labia lips, and you can use your hand to rub and rock it over the clitoris. Fiona is covered in super-smooth silicone, the best material for sex toys. With 10 pleasure modes to explore, you're sure to find one that you'll love :)
Fiona vibe is remote-controlled, which is great fun for partnered play. How about taking Fiona out on a date with you and your situationship? Sneak Fiona into your panties, and hand over the remote control to your playmate. You'll both have lots of fun!
The Mini Marvels Flicker is a similar type of vibe but with a slightly different design. Flicker has a firm tongue shape on one end and a ball shape on the other. Either end can be used for pleasuring your pearl, but imagine you'd particularly enjoy having the tongue resting over your vulva. Flicker offers 10 modes, including continuous vibration, pulses and escalation.
Another fab clit vibe from the Mini Marvels collection is Teaser. Marvelous Teaser has a smooth silicone ridge that allows it to sit comfortably between your middle and forefinger, requiring little additional grip and effectively becoming an extension of your hand. This is great for pressing and rubbing against the vulva. Like Fiona and Flicker, Teaser is rechargeable, waterproof and offers 10 exciting settings.
Best lube for silicone vibrators
All the vibrators we have suggested are made from silicone. Silicone is hypoallergenic, non-porous and easy to clean, easily the best material for sex toys. But - silicone toys are a bit picky when it comes to lube.
We recommend using a water-based lube with silicone toys. Using a silicone-based lube with a silicone toy can, over time, have a detrimental effect on the soft, smooth silicone on the toy.
Really, you can use any water-based lube - any brand and consistency. But of course, we always have recommendations! ;)
Our firm favourite for both solo and couples (situationships!) play is Sh! Pure Lube. It's water-based (suitable for all toys), paraben-free (body-friendly), and it has no scent or peculiar taste (good for oral sex). It's an all-around winner at Sh!
If you feel that investing in a large bottle (honestly, you'll go through it!) is a bit much, we also have small lube sample kits. Each kit contains 5 different sachets to try before you buy so you can see which lubricant suits you best. This kit can easily be slipped into a pocket for situationship dates.
5 tips for choosing a starter vibrator
Choosing your first vibe is super fun but can (as you noticed!) feel overwhelming. There are so many to choose from! Luckily, we have tips to help you and other curious newbies.
1. Which body part do you want a vibrator for? Think about which body parts you usually like to touch or have touched. Nipples? Clit? G-spot? Anus? There are toys for all these, and you can replicate the stimulation that turns you on the most.
2. Choose a toy with more than one setting. Having options is always good! We recommend buying a vibe with several speeds and modes such as pulsing and waves. Having options increases the chances of finding your perfect pleasure mode :)
3. Don't break the bank when buying your first vibrator. A cheaper-to-mid-price sex toy is great for your first one. The first is your practice vibe - try it out and see how it feels. Figure out what kind of vibration you like. Once you know what gets you off, you can invest in a luxury toy that will be your best friend for years.
4. Consider what matters the most for you. Do you want to use your new vibe in the bathtub? If so, you need a waterproof vibe. Do you prefer rechargeable products over battery-operated ones? The Teach Speck tab on each page will tell you all the extra info you need before adding a vibrator to the basket.
5. Is it for your use only, or are you likely to share the toy with a partner? If you're going to share it, choosing it together is fun, and the vibrator becomes a joint ownership sex toy.
We hope this helps you choose the best first vibrator - for you!
Best Wishes,
Team Sh! xx
