Vibrators CLITORAL • RABBITS • SUCTION • WANDS

Clean your vibrator before and after use.

• Waterproof toys → Usually the easiest to clean with warm water and mild soap or toy cleaner.
• Not fully waterproof? → Keep charging ports and electrical parts dry.
• After washing → Allow to dry completely before storing.
• Sharing → Clean thoroughly between users or use a fresh condom/barrier.
• Storage → Keep somewhere clean, dry and away from direct heat.
• Sh! tip → Check the product's waterproof rating before washing - “splashproof” and “waterproof” are not the same thing.

Start with where and how you want stimulation.

• Clitoral pleasure → Explore clitoral vibrators, bullets and suction toys.
• Internal pleasure → Try classic vibrators or any vibe with a shaft. internal vibrators.
• G-spot stimulation → Look for a curved G-spot vibrator.
• Inside + clitoral → Explore rabbit vibrators.
• Anal pleasure → Choose a purpose-designed anal vibrator with a secure flared base.
• Partner play → Try couples' vibrators, vibrating cock rings or smaller external vibes.
• Sh! tip → A vibrator shaped for penetration can still be used externally. You don't have to use a toy the way it looks like you “should”.

More powerful doesn't automatically mean better. Think about the kind of touch you already enjoy.

• Gentle touch → Look for 'gentle' or 'medium' rated intensity.
• Firm stimulation → 'Strong'-rated vibration may suit you better.
• Need lots of stimulation to orgasm? → Explore 'high Intense or 'deep throbby' vibes.
• Not sure? → Choose a vibrator with several intensity levels so you can experiment.
• Sh! tip → Start low. You can always turn things up.
  

Not all vibration feels the same.

• Most vibes oscillate in a way that deliver quick, surface-level sensations. These can range from 'gentle' to 'high-intense'
• "Deep throbby' vibration → Heavier vibration that feels it throbs deeper into the body.
• Pinpoint stimulation → Smaller toys concentrate sensation in one place.
• Broad stimulation → Wands spread vibration over a larger area.
• Sh! tip → It’s not just how strong it is - it’s how the vibration feels. Choose 'Gentle/Medium/Strong or 'High Intense' for surface sensation or 'deep throbby' for a deeper-feeling buzz.

If you're using a vibrator externally, size is mostly about how you want to hold and position it.

For penetration:

• Slim → Gentler and usually easier for beginners.
• Width matters most → Too much girth can feel uncomfortable even if the length looks manageable.
• Longer → You control how deeply you insert it.
• Playable length → Check the insertable section, not just the vibrator's overall size.
• Sh! tip → Think about what already feels comfortable - fingers, another toy or a partner can give you a useful point of comparison.

Material changes both how the toy feels and how vibration travels through it.

• Silicone → Smooth, sensual and softer to the touch.
• Softer materials → Tend to cushion vibration and can feel gentler.
• ABS plastic → Firm and lightweight, with stronger, more direct vibration because less energy is absorbed by the material.
• Harder materials → Give firmer pressure and more direct sensation.
• Sh! tip → Material isn't just about safety. Firmness and vibration transfer can completely change how a vibrator feels.

No vibrator is completely silent, but some are much quieter than others.

• Quiet → Best if discretion matters.
• Meoderate→ Noticeable but usually easy to mask with normal background noise.
• Loud but worth it → Often the trade-off for serious power.
• Sh! tip → Very powerful motors usually make more noise, so think about whether power or privacy matters more to you
• → Explore Quiet Vibrators

Both have advantages.

• Rechargeable → Convenient, lower-waste and usually gives more consistent power.
• Rechargeable tip → Keep yours topped up so your vibe is ready when you are.
• Battery-powered → Easy to revive instantly as long as you have fresh batteries.
• Travel → Battery toys can be handy when charging isn't convenient.
• Sh! tip → Neither is automatically better - choose the option that fits how and where you use your toys.

There's no single correct technique. Start gently and follow what feels good.

• Try it externally first, even if it's designed for penetration.
• Explore the vulva, clitoris, inner thighs and other sensitive areas.
• Experiment with pressure, angle, intensity and patterns.
• For internal use, add plenty of lube and take your time.
• During partnered play, use a smaller vibe externally or try a couples-specific design.
• Sh! tip → A vibrator doesn't have to lead to orgasm (althou' MANY women have their 1st, or more reliable orgasms with one) Explore sensation first and let pleasure build in its own time.

Read: How to Use a Vibrator

At Sh!, we prefer “pre-orgasmic” to “non-orgasmic”. It puts the emphasis on exploring your orgasmic potential rather than suggesting something is “wrong”.

For many women and vulva-owners, discovering orgasm means learning the particular touch, pressure, rhythm and stimulation their body responds to.

• Start with the clitoris → Clitoral stimulation is the best place to begin exploring.
  
• Find your Happy Hour → Imagine your clitoris as a clock face and slowly explore around it. You may discover one or two spots that respond much more strongly.
  
• Try a vibrator → Sustained, consistent stimulation means your hand doesn't have to do all the work.
  
• Give yourself time → There's no “right” amount of time to orgasm.
  
• Focus on pleasure → Constantly wondering “Am I nearly there?” can make it harder to stay immersed in sensation.
• Sh! tip → Don't worry about what an orgasm is supposed to feel like. They can range from little peaks and waves of pleasure to much bigger crescendos.
• READ: UNABLE TO ORGASM? →

Orgasms can be ellusive or disappear for all sorts of reasons. Stress, medication, hormonal changes, illness, surgery, relationships and changes in arousal or sensation can all play a part.

Start by getting curious about what your body responds to.

• Change the sensation → More power isn't always better. Experiment with gentle, strong, buzzy, deep or rumbly vibration.
• Too sensitive? → Try lower settings or stimulate around rather than directly on the clitoris.
  
• Try air-pulse → Suction toys offer a different sensation without vibration directly against the clitoral tip.
  
• Add lube → Extra glide can make stimulation feel more sensual and comfortable.
  
• Give your brain something sexy → Fantasy, erotica or audio can help keep your attention connected to arousal.
• Sh! tip → What worked five or ten years ago doesn't have to be what works now. Pleasure can change. Exploring those changes is part of the fun.
• READ: ORGASM GUIDES→

Only around 18% of women say vaginal intercourse alone is enough for them to orgasm. For many women, penetration alone doesn't provide enough clitoral stimulation which is why adding the stimulation you already enjoy can make such a difference.

• Start with what already works → If you orgasm alone, recreate the position, pressure, rhythm and stimulation you use when masturbating. Your solo pleasure can be a brilliant guide to showing a partner what your body enjoys.
• Bullet vibes → Small enough to hold against the clitoris during penetration.
  
• Finger vibrators → Keep your hands free to touch and explore.
  
• Vibrating cock rings → Add external vibration during penis-vagina sex.
  
• Couples vibrators → Some sit between bodies to provide stimulation during penetration.
  
• Change position → Woman-on-top and positions that encourage grinding can provide more clitoral contact.
• Sh! tip → Needing clitoral stimulation with a partner doesn't make your orgasm any less “real”. Bring what already works when you're alone into the pleasure you share.
• READ: CAN'T ORGASM WITH A PARTNER? →