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First Sex Toy Recommendations

New to sex toys? Confused by all the options? Want to share the experience with a partner who's also new to toys? Eek - so many questions! 

We know buying your first sex toy is thrilling - but can also feel overwhelming - so we've created a beginner's guide with the most popular sex toy categories to make it easier. Grab a cuppa and read on! 

YOUR FIRST CLITORAL VIBE

Flexible rabbit ears for clitoral pleasure are a fantastic choice for women & vulva owners who prefer stimulation on the sides of the clitoris rather than directly on the sensitive tip.

Add a slick of water-based lube to the ears and slide them on either side of your clit. If you want more intensity, simply squeeze the ears and the clit for more. 

Made from smooth silicone, Deena Clit Bunny is cute and easy to use, whether playing as a couple or solo. This clit vibe offers 12 exciting modes, controlled via a single push button. 

Deena purple clitoral vibrator

 

DISCOVER YOUR FIRST G-SPOT TOY

The Slender Mini G-Spot vibrator is small but perfectly formed. Crafted with body-safe silicone, this vibrator features a delicately curved tip for enhanced G-spot exploration and stimulation.

Great for those who prefer smaller sex toys, this mini vibrator features a curved tip for G-spot stimulation and delivers precise pleasure without being too intense.

The Slender G-Vibe has 3 vibration speeds and 7 settings, including pulsing & crescendo-building thrills, easily controlled with a single button.

slender G-spot vibrator in pale pink

 

YOUR FIRST RABBIT VIBRATOR

Experience incredible pleasure with two bunny ears that flicker and pulse around the sides of the clit!

The Sh! Waterproof Rabbit vibrator is a sleek, dual-action sex toy designed to provide simultaneous pleasure to the clitoris and G-spot. This vibe offers double the fun with a rabbit-shaped clitoral stimulator and rotating shaft. The tiny metal beads enhance stimulation inside the vaginal opening for an unbeatably erotic experience.

This popular vibe provides a range of vibration, escalation, and pulse patterns for your enjoyment.

Like with all sex toys, using water-based lube enhances the experience.

Rabbit vibrator in purple

 

YOUR FIRST VIBRATING COCK RING

Discover the popularity of vibrating cock rings among couples!

A vibrating cock ring provides clitoral stimulation during penetration. It's a popular sex toy for couples, as 75% of women & vulva owners need clitoral stimulation to orgasm.

This Vibrating Cock & Balls Ring offers a snug feeling at the base of the penis for the penis owner, while the vulva-owner enjoys thrilling vibes for the clit. A win-win!

Black cock & balls ring

 

YOUR FIRST ANAL TOY

The cleverly-designed Butt Plug 3 is a peachy option for those looking to try anal play for the first time. This plug is hand-poured in our studio in London and features our heart-shaped base for safe anal play. The beads progressively increase in size, ensuring a comfortable and thrilling experience.

When it comes to anal play, there are three rules to adhere to:

  1. Go slow
  2. Go small
  3. Go for a thick anal lube

This silicone sex toy is non-porous, easy to clean, and fabulous in the booty!

Beaded butt plug in purple

 

THE PERFECT BEGINNER'S STRAP-ON KIT

We've noticed an increasing number of couples interested in exploring strap-on play as sexuality and gender become more fluid.

However, choosing the right shapes and sizes can be tricky. To simplify the process, we have developed the First Strap-On Kit.

This kit combines a medium-sized Cupid 2 silicone dildo with a Slip-On harness for an excellent first strap-on. The Cupid 2 dildo is 12cm long and has a girth of 3cm at its widest. The soft panty-harness is super-comfortable and can be worn under clothing for quick access. This beginner's kit also includes water-based lube and sex toy cleaner.

FIRST STRAP ON DILDO KIT

 

YOUR FIRST SPANKING TOY

This adorable flogger with 10 inch faux leather tails is perfect for delivering soft strokes or a satisfying 'thwack' on a bare bum cheek. It's sassy, inexpensive and easy to use - a must-have!

Here's what a customer had to say about the Leopard Print Whip: 

'I'm a beginner, and I'm finding this whip great! It's practically impossible to actually hurt and if used to tickle, it just delivers amazing sensations!'

Test the strands on your arm or thigh to gauge the sensation before using the flogger on your partner's skin. 

Leopard print whip flogger

 

Browse all the best toys for newbies here! 


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