Sex toys can make your sex life better, allowing you to experience different or more intense types of orgasm and helping to close the orgasm-gap. Sex toys are healthy intensifying intimacy and communication between couples, and solo self-exploration and sexual discovery, whatever your gender, sexuality or experience-level. They can help treat Vaginismus or erectile dysfunction.

Yes, as long as they are made from body-safe material, in a body-safe design. Always use sex toys safely with common sense; follow the instructions and use only for their intended purpose (ie. never use a non anal-safe toy, anally). Thorough cleaning and careful storing of sex toys is important, as is being extra careful around sharing sex toys ( always use condoms) is the most important safety advice, as toys can transmit STI's.

Q&A: Help Me Choose My First Vibrator

Dear Sh! I’m 21 and have yet to have an orgasm. My mates tell me that trying a vibrator is a good idea, but there are so many amazing sex toys out there I can’t pick one! What would you recommend as a first vibrator? Cheers!

Hi there,

Thanks for getting in touch!

There are a few things we can recommend to help you experience your first orgasm.

Most folks find continuous stimulation is needed to reach orgasm, and a vibe will keep buzzing long after fingers have become tired. We have lost count of the number of customers who have told us they had their first orgasm with the help of a vibrator. This is how we know vibes are a reliable way to experience that first climax!

Trying out a vibrator is a great idea!

One of our favourite vibes is the Ultra 7 Vector Egg. The Vector Egg has 7 modes, taking you from a gentle, steady hum right up to a powerful buzz designed to tip you over the edge. An egg-shaped vibe like the Vector Egg can also be used for exploring the whole vulva before honing in on the clitoris.

Ultra 7 Vector Egg and control in silver plastic on white background

If penetration is something you enjoy, we’d suggest trying a rabbit vibrator. There’s a good reason why these rabbits have become the most famous and best-selling vibrators in the world! The Sh! Waterproof Rabbit is one of our most popular vibrators. The shaft has three speeds, and the little bunny has no less than 12 modes to explore. At under £30, the Sh! Rabbit is a great option to help you find out your likes and dislikes without having to spend a small fortune.

Sexy fantasies can help you have an orgasm

So many of us find it hard to stay in the moment. We worry we’re taking too long or there is some other distraction that keeps interrupting our pleasure. This is where being able to fantasise freely comes in very handy. A hot sex scene, whether it’s your own in your head or from an erotic fantasy book or porn film, may just help tip you over the edge.

Becoming Orgasmic online sex course

Our sister site Shush Life offer a pre-recorded online sex course that focuses on orgasms. This fabulous course takes you through anatomy, libido, arousal, masturbation and sex toys, and we think you should take a look...

Finally, we’d suggest some forward planning when trying out your new sex toy for the first time. Pick an evening with nothing planned, switch off the phone, have a nice glass of wine, a luxurious bath, or whatever helps you to relax – then take your time and enjoy!