New to sex toys? Explore our beginner-friendly vibrators, clitoral toys, dildos and more, chosen to make discovering what feels easy and fun.
Discover beginner-friendly vibrators, clitoral toys, dildos and more, chosen to make exploring pleasure simple and fun.
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Quick Guide
Your simple, no-pressure guide to choosing your first sex toy.
There’s no perfect first toy, but simple usually wins.
The main question is: do you want vibration?
A vibrator creates buzzing or rumbly stimulation and can often be used externally as well as internally.
A dildo gives you pressure, movement and fullness without vibration, so you control every sensation yourself.
Neither is “better.” It simply depends on what sounds more appealing to you.
For your first penetrative toy, smaller and slimmer is usually easier.
You can always explore more size later.
Choose something that looks comfortable rather than challenging, and remember that plenty of pleasure comes from external stimulation too.
Look for a vibrator with several intensity levels, so you can begin gently and turn things up only if you want to.
More powerful doesn’t automatically mean more pleasurable. Some people love deep, strong vibration; others prefer something soft and subtle.
For beginners, we particularly love body-safe silicone.
It feels smooth and comfortable, is easy to clean and often has a little softness or flexibility.
Harder materials such as glass or plastic can feel amazing too, but they give firmer, more intense pressure.
There’s no special technique you need to master.
Start slowly, add lube and explore without putting pressure on yourself to orgasm.
Try the toy over underwear first, use it externally, experiment with different positions or intensities, and notice what your body responds to.
Your first time with a toy is simply about discovering what feels good.
We always ecommend using lube - it just makes everything feel more comfortable and pleasurable.
With silicone toys, choose a water-based lubricant.
Perfectly normal.
You don’t need to know your “toy type” before you begin. Pleasure preferences are something you discover through experimenting.
Choose something that feels approachable, start gently and let curiosity lead the way.
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Not sure where to start? Find your first sex toy with simple, friendly advice on choosing what feels right for you.
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GOOD TO KNOW
What people ask most about buying their first sex toy
There’s no single best first sex toy, but small, simple and easy to control is a great place to start.
If you’re interested in external pleasure, try a small clitoral vibrator or bullet vibrator. If you’d like to explore penetration, look for a slim dildo or small internal vibrator. Want both? A beginner-friendly rabbit vibrator can offer internal and clitoral stimulation together.
Start with what appeals to you - you can always explore more later.
Think about where and how you already enjoy being touched rather than what you think you “should” buy.
Love clitoral stimulation? Start with a clitoral vibrator. Enjoy penetration or pressure? Explore dildos or internal vibrators. Not sure yet? A small vibrator is versatile enough to experiment with in lots of different ways.
Your first toy is about discovering what feels good to you.
For a first penetrative toy, smaller and slimmer is often the most comfortable choice.
You don’t need a large toy to experience plenty of sensation. Starting smaller lets you explore penetration at your own pace — and you can always move up in size if you decide you want more fullness.
Yes. Choose a well-made, body-safe toy, use it as intended and keep it clean.
We recommend toys made from materials such as body-safe silicone, ABS plastic, stainless steel or quality glass. For penetrative toys, plenty of lubricant can make play more comfortable too.
We recommend it always and especially for penetrative toys.
Lube reduces friction and can make toys feel smoother and more comfortable. Water-based lubricant is the easiest all-round choice and is suitable for use with silicone sex toys.
Start on the lowest setting and experiment somewhere you already enjoy being touched.
You can try a vibrator over underwear first, then directly against the body when you’re ready. Explore different pressures, positions and vibration levels rather than rushing towards orgasm.
There’s no correct technique - follow what feels good.
Absolutely not.
Many sex toys are designed entirely for external stimulation, particularly clitoral vibrators, bullets and wand massagers.
Many women use their vibrator, even those designed to be inserted, purely for external clitoral stimulation.
Penetration is an option, never a requirement.
Then a vibrator may just become your new best friend!
A vibrator can help you explore different sensations and learn what your body responds to. Take your time, experiment with intensity and placement, and focus on pleasure rather than making orgasm the goal.
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