Discreet Sex Toys For Beginners Chosen by Women at Sh! Women's Store.

Sex Toys For Beginners

Discreet Sex Toys For Beginners Curated & Handmade by Women.

Discover your perfect first sex toy. We've curated a selection of our best non-intimidating, easy-to-use toys for newbies. Read our beginner's guides or ask our all-female (100% human!) team for tailored advice.

FIND YOUR FIRST SEX TOY

Start small, inexpensive and simple...

We don't recommend spending £££'s, as a pricey can mean over-the-top expectations... Every body is is different. There is no magic 'one-toy-suits-all' Until you've tried a sex toy, and got your starting point, it's impossible to know what will thrill YOU!

A loud toy may put you off enjoying it FULLY! First-time playing can feel embarrassing (especially in a shared house) so we recommend looking at quiet toys...

If you find orgasms elusive or have never had an orgasm (or if you already know you love clitoral stimulation) an easy-to-use clitoral toy could be a good first sex toy for you.

Generally inexpensive & clit-pleasing (key to female orgasm). Also use them to explore just inside (where most vaginal nerve-endings found) Usually powerful so you get the full vibe experience (if it feels too much, just use over your underwear)

A rabbit vibe might be a good first toy; allowing you to explore internal pleasure, whilst also getting all-important clit stimulation too :) Downsides? Could feel complicated for first-timers & can be expensive.

2 things to look for, when looking for a first anal toy: EASY TO USE & SMALL (always start small as everything feels magnified up the bum!) Never use a regular vibe - anal toys are specially designed to not get lost up there...

Playful, un-intimidating toys are best for first-time playing together, as a couple. Make sure your partner feels included (not criticised or replaced!) Read how to introduce a sex toy to your partner to find out more...

Beginner Sex Toys FAQ's

FIRST SOLO SEX TOY?

Buying a first sex toy can be exciting, but also intimidating (SO much choice!) If you've never tried a sex toy and are a complete beginner, we recommend something small and easy to use. For vulva-owners a bullet vibrator is a good first vibe. About the size of a finger, a bullet vibe is perfect to pleasure the clitoris (the epicentre of female orgasm) and slip just inside the opening of the vagina. For penis-owners, we recommend a Tenga Egg - a fun mastabator which will add extra stimulation to hand-jobs.

FIRST COUPLE'S SEX TOY?

What sex toys couple’s enjoy is multi-fold! but a finger vibe is a good all-round first sex toy for couples of all gender combinations, adding a thrilling buzz everywhere you touch. A vibrating cock ring is another good starter toy for adding hands-free clit stimulation during intercourse - and of course, the all-important bottle of water-based lube should be in your basket too!

FIRST ANAL TOY?

Beginners to anal sex should start SMALL – the bum is an area where all sensations feel particularly magnified, believe us! Beginner’s Butt Plug might be the place to start, plus some (lots of!) anal lube, of course…

FIRST STRAP-ON?

Buying your first stap-on should be all about excitement and pleasure, never about a too big dildo (the most usual mistake newbie’s make). First strap-on kit maybe the place to start...