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Q&A: Recommend a Beginners Vibrator?

Q&A: Recommend a Beginners Vibrator? - Sh! Women's Store

Dear Sh!

I'm in my early twenties and I've yet to have an orgasm. I'd love to try out a vibrator - what would you recommend for a total beginner?

Recommendations for a beginner's vibrator

Trying out a vibrator is a great idea. Most women & vulva-owners find that continuous stimulation is crucial for orgasms. A vibe can be an absolute god-send as it'll keep buzzing long after fingers have got tired!

A pebble-shaped vibe is an excellent choice, and one of our favourites is Je Joue Mimi. Mimi (see featured image above) has multiple speeds, from a gentle hum right up to an intense buzz. This vibe can be used for teasing the vulva or for more direct clitoral stimulation. Explore your body with the vibe to work out which mode and position work best for you.

If you enjoy penetration, we suggest trying out a rabbit vibrator. A rabbit vibe comes with a shaft for internal pleasure and a pair of buzzing bunny ears for stimulating the clitoris. The rabbit ears sit snugly on either side of the clit, where they deliver maximum delight.

Or, if you like the sound of the bunny ears but don’t fancy penetration, take a look at the Mini Marvel Bunny. A multi-speed clit vibe with bunny ears packs a punch and is so easy to use.

We recommend some forward planning when trying out your toy for the first time. Pick an evening with nothing planned, switch off the phone, have a nice glass of wine, a luxurious bath, or whatever helps you relax. 

a dreamy pic with fairy lights and a hand with purple nailvarnish holding a purpleRabbit Vibrators

Lube enhances all sex play

We always recommend using lube for all sex play. A gentle lube enhances pleasure and can really boost sensations in and around the vulva and vagina. Sh! Pure Lube is water-based and paraben-free and suitable for all kinds of sex.

We also offer a fantastic orgasm course for women and vulva-owners. Becoming Orgasmic consists of 7 sessions, covering everything from anatomy to masturbation techniques to squirting and what to expect from it. You will learn about desire, arousal, and the importance of keeping your mind connected to the task at hand for your orgasm to reveal itself.

Best Wishes

Team Sh! xx

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