Once the last few Christmas chocolates have been scoffed and the last of the NYE's Champagne corks have been popped, many find themselves making a series of New Year's resolutions. More often than not, these resolutions involve lifestyle changes like healthy eating, going to the gym, and generally doing less of the enjoyable things in life. Few stick to these promises past January - ourselves included.
This got us thinking. How about making some resolutions this year that we all want to keep, and best of all, enjoy holding?
We're not promising to eat healthier, nor are we likely to go to the gym more often or cut down on the indecent amount of Prosecco we drink in any one year, but what we solemnly swear to do for ourselves is increase our orgasm quota!
Sounds good? Here's the plan:
Love My Body
One New Year’s resolution we hope everyone is going to work hard to keep is learning to love the bodies we are in. Bodies come in all shapes and sizes, and embracing the uniqueness of yours should be top of the list of things to achieve.
Not only accepting but also loving every bump and curve will build body confidence that'll have you power-walking into the bedroom before stretching out on the bed, stark naked in broad daylight. Before you know it, you might even take a little peek at your lusciousness in the mirror - which is a fun way of indulging in a bit of me-time...
Every time the inner voice gets in the way, let's endeavour to quieten it, or even better - teach it to celebrate all that is you!
More ‘Me’ Time
With work, friends, families and all of the other stuff that stops us from treating ourselves as a priority, it can be hard to find the time to make ourselves feel good. Of course, me-time means different things to different people, but in this instance, we're talking about polishing the pearl. Jerking the Johnson. Wanking.
Spending hours and hours enjoying sexy time with partners is fantastic, but sometimes it's nice not to have to focus on someone else's pleasure. Taking the time to just think about yourself and do things as slowly or as hard as you like, is pretty damn fantastic too.
Masturbation reduces stress levels and helps us discover more about our bodies; it's the best way of learning what brings us an immense amount of pleasure.
Let's agree to make our satisfaction a priority by whipping out our favourite toys and lube whenever the opportunity arises.
Be More Honest with Myself and My Sex Partner/s
Being more honest with ourselves and our partners/lovers/friends-with-benefits should be on every list of New Year's resolutions.
We're probably all guilty of not speaking up when something doesn't feel great, just as we don't like admitting that we get intensely turned on when fantasizing about scenarios that aren't quite pc.
By being more open and honest about what works for us sexually, we stand to get the most out of intimate encounters. Sometimes, this means taking time to reflect on past sexual experiences and working out what was so hot at that particular time. Sharing these thoughts with partners - and asking them to do the same - creates intimacy and a new openness. Discussing desires openly can only work to make sex better!
This year, let's work out what turns us on the most and then share the findings with significant others, who might just be open to reciprocating...
Try New Things
Opening ourselves up to new experiences is one of the best things about life, but you don't need to go further than your bedroom door to try new things.
Depending on your experiences, trying something new can be as soft and luxurious as allowing a partner to massage your skin with sumptuous oil, or as dominant and intense as donning a strap-on and hopping onboard for a pegging session.
This year, why not push your erotic boundaries a little bit further by trying something that seems a little wild or naughty? Food play is messy but so much fun, giving or receiving a spanking is an excellent release after a long day, and anal play can be downright delicious when you take the time to savour each stroke...
This is the year for saying YES to yourself and new adventures!
