Orgasms - so delicious yet so elusive at times. There is no way of guaranteeing sure-fire orgasmic pleasure for everyone, unfortunately. But it would be fair to say that we've picked up one or two (or 10!) useful tricks in our 30+ years in the sex toy business. This is partly through homework (yep, we practice what we preach!) and partly through listening to women & vulva owners sharing their experiences with us. Read on for some of our favourite sex tips for orgasms. We hope the pleasure will be all yours... *wink*
Orgasmic Sex Tip #1: Sensual Play
Sex can be even better when you can't see what's going on.
All other senses are on high alert when you can't see what's going on, so blindfolding yourself during masturbation or allowing a trusted partner to blindfold you during couples' play is a fantastic way to focus on the erotic sensations fizzing through your body.
Want to ramp up the heat further? Plug in your headphones and listen to an erotic story while blindfolded. This cuts out all distractions so you can relax and focus on pleasure.
Orgasm Sex Tip #2: Pelvis Press
A simple trick to help a stubborn orgasm along is to use one hand to press and stretch the lower part of your stomach upwards. This lifts the clitoral hood and can feel absolutely amazing!
This is something to try while masturbating or during sex with a partner. A member of our team learnt how to have very reliable orgasms with this easy tip.
Sex Tip #3: Slidey Fingers
One of the best fingering techniques we know is the Flying the V.
Here's how to do it: Spread your fingers into a V-sign (like a peace sign) and slide them back and forth between the outer and inner labia lips. This move allows you to play with the internal clitoris. You'll find that the clitoral bulbs fill with blood pretty quickly - this is when the vulva starts swelling and you feel aroused.
Using lube on your fingers makes this move much more sensual, or you could try an enhancing gel designed especially for the clitoris.
Orgasmic Sex Tip #4: Celebrate Hump Day
Humping and grinding are fun, sexy and very effective ways of getting off.
Grab a pillow, or even better, make a mountain out of pillows in your bed and straddle it. Wiggle and ride your pillow mountain in ways that feel great for you. Some prefer firmer objects to grind against, but we recommend starting off soft and working up to a firmer surface if you think pillows aren't quite hitting the spot.
If you're almost there but not quite, why not try a ride-on vibrator?
Orgasm Sex Tip #5: Pervertables
Many innocent-looking everyday items can be used for sex play. We call these 'pervertables.'
A fork is an excellent pervertable. The prongs feel sensual when stroked gently along naked skin. Wooden spoons or silicone fried egg turners are also fun pervertables - they double as spanking paddles!
A string of beads is another great pervertable. Wash the beads before lubing them up, then use them to create friction against the vulva & clitoris or shaft & glans of the penis.
Look around your home - we bet you have many things that could be pleasurable!
Sex Tip #6: Full Bladder
Many women & vulva owners say that their orgasms are more intense when their bladders are full. This isn't something we suggest doing regularly, but a one-off test drive can be fun!
If you're worried about letting go, try full-bladder sex in the shower or bath or even place a puppy pad on the bed. The latter is a trick many squirters use - it helps save time on the cleanup.
Make sure to go for a pee after play, though - you don't want to end up with cystitis.
Sex Tip For Orgasm #7: Temperature Play
Glass toys are fantastic for sensual temperature play - especially during heat waves. Leave your favourite glass dildo to chill in the fridge for up to 20 minutes. Whilst you are at it, pop your fave lube in there as well - you'll want some of that to help ease the dildo in comfortably.
Alternatively, if it's cold where you are, warm your glass dildo under running warm (not hot) water and enjoy this decadent (and very pleasurable) way of warming up!
Orgasmic Sex Tip #8: Doggy Style
Lube up your favourite dildo or internal vibrator, then reach around and insert it from behind. This position offers deep penetration and, if you are agile enough, thrusting.
If this is one of your favourite ways to build an orgasm, we recommend treating yourself to a Fun Factory Stronic vibe to make it extra fun. These cool vibrators pulse and trust by themselves, so all you need to do is concentrate on pleasure!
*Quick warning - due to their magnetic components, self-thrusting vibes are not suitable for folks with pacemakers.
Orgasm Sex Tip #9: Anal Play
Using a butt plug or anal beads during masturbation or partnered sex can ramp up the intensity of your pleasure immensely.
Using a butt plug vs using anal beads is a personal choice, as both offer fantastic orgasmic possibilities. If you are new to anal play, opt for a small sex toy. If you are an anal aficionado, you might prefer a fuller feeling. Any toy you use for anal pleasure must have a flared base or a loop handle to avoid getting sucked up into the butt (not joking babes, this can happen!).
The butt isn't self-lubricating, so anal lube is essential.
Sex Tip #10: G-Spot Orgasm
To explore and experience G-spot orgasms, you need to be incredibly turned on. Take 30-40 minutes (an hour!) to tease yourself into a state of readiness with a G-spot toy - but don't let yourself come. Keep the temperature hot without boiling over.
When you really can't stand it any longer, squat on the floor and focus your toy in a firm 'come hither' motion against your G-spot area. Breathe deeply into the pit of your stomach and concentrate on the sensations. Go with the flow. You may feel a sudden need to pee, but this is likely an orgasm-building. Don't hold back at this point - it'll chase the orgasm off. Have a towel handy if you're worried, but don't stop that motion!