Sex toys can make your sex life better, allowing you to experience different or more intense types of orgasm and helping to close the orgasm-gap. Sex toys are healthy intensifying intimacy and communication between couples, and solo self-exploration and sexual discovery, whatever your gender, sexuality or experience-level. They can help treat Vaginismus or erectile dysfunction.

Yes, as long as they are made from body-safe material, in a body-safe design. Always use sex toys safely with common sense; follow the instructions and use only for their intended purpose (ie. never use a non anal-safe toy, anally). Thorough cleaning and careful storing of sex toys is important, as is being extra careful around sharing sex toys ( always use condoms) is the most important safety advice, as toys can transmit STI's.

Q&A: Why Can't I Orgasm?

Hi Sh!,

I'm looking for a new sex toy. I have the Fun Factory Stronic Bi Fusion and although it worked for me at first, it's now not doing the job. I now have a partner who's happy to use sex toys so that's not a problem but I'm finding it impossible to have an orgasm. I'm 58 and wondering if that's the problem although I think I have strong vaginal walls etc. I would be grateful if you could give me some ideas.

Hello there, thanks for getting in touch!

The Stronic Bi Fusion is a toy that offers deep vibrations and pulsing, thrusting sensations, so we’re guessing that this is the kind of intensity that works best for you.

Wand vibrators are recommended if you can't orgasm.

We think a wand could be a good option for you. Sexologists and sex educators often recommend this type of sex toy, as they are exceptionally orgasm-reliable.

The vibrations are deep and reverberate through the body, usually with joyous results!

The Sh! Wand massager offers 10 different settings designed to knock socks and panties off.

The Wand is rather large in size but surprisingly light to hold and manoeuvre. Place it on or near the lower part of your stomach before moving it closer to your clitoris. Take time to build up desire before attempting an explosive climax.

We also swear by On Arousal Oil for orgasms.

This is a blend of delicious-smelling essential oils designed to perk up clits. A drop or two is all it takes for blood flow to increase and get juicy bits swelling. This helps with arousal and - dare we say it - doubles your chances of climax. Wowzers!

Strong PC Muscles are a plus, orgasm-wise!

The strength of your vaginal walls should be a plus – the stronger the PC muscle, the stronger your orgasms usually are. Your age should not be a problem either – orgasms are ageless!

Orgasms and your health

Your general health probably plays a part. Are you taking any medication that could affect libido, such as anti-depressants? If so, it could be an idea to discuss this with your doctor. There might be other, more suitable options that don't hamper your libido.

We're guessing you are menopausal, which can have an effect on how your body reacts to stimulation. Again, a chat with your doctor could be helpful, in case there's a hormonal imbalance that needs to be rectified.

Best of luck!

Love, Team Sh xx