Sex toys can make your sex life better, allowing you to experience different or more intense types of orgasm and helping to close the orgasm-gap. Sex toys are healthy intensifying intimacy and communication between couples, and solo self-exploration and sexual discovery, whatever your gender, sexuality or experience-level. They can help treat Vaginismus or erectile dysfunction.

Yes, as long as they are made from body-safe material, in a body-safe design. Always use sex toys safely with common sense; follow the instructions and use only for their intended purpose (ie. never use a non anal-safe toy, anally). Thorough cleaning and careful storing of sex toys is important, as is being extra careful around sharing sex toys ( always use condoms) is the most important safety advice, as toys can transmit STI's.

What Is Frotting And How Do You Do It?

We recently received some questions about frotting, like what it is and how to do it. You might not be familiar with the term, but chances are that you have enjoyed some delicious grinding with a lover at some point.

What Is Frotting?

The French word frotter means 'to rub.' The Greek word tribas also means 'to rub.'

Frotting - two penises grinding against each other.
Hetero frotting - a vulva and a penis grinding against each other.
Lesbian tribbing - two vulvae in close contact, rubbing against each other.

Frotting and tribbing are sexy, intimate acts. Feeling a partner's warmth, hardness or wetness against your own is an incredible turn-on. The pleasurable friction caused by the movements stimulates both sets of genitals simultaneously.

Women & vulva-owning people need a lot of clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Frotting and tribbing deliver the constant stimulation for this.

Tips For Frotting

Lube is your best friend in any sexy situation, especially when you are planning on a long play session. There may be wetness or pre-come, but adding moisture enhances sensations and ensures the close grinding is comfortable and slick. We tend to recommend water-based lube for most situations, but silicone-based lube is better for frotting. A little goes a long way, and silicone-based lube will stay slick throughout the session.

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Sex toys like wand massagers are great for tribbing. Place the lubed-up wand head between your vulvae, and you can both grind against the thrilling vibrations! When using sex toys made from silicone, it's best to use water-based lube. Silicone lube can have a detrimental effect on silicone toys, so better safe than sorry. Silicone toys aren't cheap, so looking after them well ensures many years of pleasure :)

If you and your lover are into penetration as well as vibration, the PicoBong Transformer is a fantastic toy. Bend Transformer into a shape that suits your sex position, then insert the vibrating bulbs vaginally or anally and grind your juicy bits against each other.

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Butt plugs and prostate massagers are also fun additions for a sexy, slow grind. Butt plugs offer a 'full' sensation and give you something to squeeze against. Prostate massagers stimulate the male-bodied prostate, so wearing a massager ensures the front & back get hot attention simultaneously!

The Power Plug Penis Ring is a fun option for penis owners who enjoy anal play. This toy combines the squeeze of a cock ring with the sensual pleasure of a butt plug, connected together. The movement from one pulls pleasurably on the other.

Dressed Frot & Tribbing

Dressed frot and tribbing is commonly known as 'dry humping.' This is also super sexy. Enhance the dry hump sesh by slipping a lubed-up Bananapants grind pad into your panties. This gives you a silky-smooth double-hump to grind against - party-in-the-pants pleasure!

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Is Frotting Safe?

Frotting and tribbing are non-penetrative sexual activities, which lowers the risks of passing STIs/STDs. However, naked rubbing against each other's genitals still carries the risk of skin-to-skin infections such as HPV and pubic lice.

Wearing a condom makes all sexual encounters safer, including frot. You can easily heighten sensations for the penis-wearer by adding a drop of lube inside the condom before rolling it over the penis.

Dental dams are unlikely to stay in place during a hot tribbing sesh, so our best tip is to attend regular sexual health check-ups. This way, everyone can make informed decisions. It's vital to abstain if you have an active outbreak of genital herpes.