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Q&A: Which Lube is Best for Me?

Q&A: Which Lube is Best for Me? - Sh! Women's Store

Hi Sh!

I am a disabled woman and am entering the menopause. Vaginal dryness is a problem, and annoyingly I have an allergy to the crèmes recommended by the Drs. which have oestrogen in them, so I cannot lubricate for sex this way.

I have been experimenting with a variety of over-the-counter non-hormone lubricants to get over this problem during penetrative sex. Normal lube (Like Boots' own brand and Durex Play) is no good. I've tried ones containing silicone (ID silk natural feel), which was much better. However, I leak a little water during sex, and it washes the lube away! Is there anything which is a little more resilient? I'm fed up.

Hope you can help. My Dr recommended I get in touch, as she said she wasn't an expert, but you might have some ideas for brands? Looking through your website. Is Eros Pjur Woman lubricant a good one, or can you recommend something better? Hope you can help. 

 Hello there,

Thank you for reaching out to us. We know it can be frustrating to navigate the different types of lubrication available in the market but the good news is that we are here to help!

Silicone-based lubricants, like Eros Pjur Woman, are a good option as they are slicker and longer-lasting. Silicone-based means slicker and longer lasting. Lubes like Eros Pjur will keep slick until washed off with soap & water. However, silicone-based lubes can cause vaginal irritation in women & vulva owners who are very sensitive. For this reason, we recommend trying a thicker, water-based lube first.

Our own brand Sh! Pure Plus lube is paraben-free and water-based, making it exceptionally body-friendly. This particular lube is ideal for menopausal women and those experiencing dryness, as its viscous formula is longer-lasting and makes play more comfortable.

A water-based lube is water soluble, so you can easily rinse it off with water - no need for soap.


Regarding the leaking issue, have you considered the possibility of a weak pelvic floor muscle? If so, you may want to try Kegel exercises or use love balls, which are weighted balls worn internally to help tone up the PC muscle. It might be worth discussing this with your Doctor?

We hope this helps!

Best Wishes,
Team Sh! xx

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