Dear Sh! I'm looking for some advice on how to talk sexy to my long-distance partner over the phone. I'd love to try it but I'm a bit nervous about sounding fake or silly! Any advice/tips gratefully received. Thanks in advance!
We think sexy talk is lots of fun! A part of the thrill is that it feels taboo and out-of-bounds...but we know it can feel tricky to get started. A good tip is to start by 'sexting' with your partner to build your confidence.
Warm up with sexting
Exchanging hot text messages can be a fantastic turn-on and allows you to use sexy words and phrases without worrying about how you sound. We'd suggest sending an ordinary text first to ensure they are alone and free to text back. The potential for embarrassment with sexts reaching the wrong person or arriving at a bad moment is high!
Practice sexy phrases
Try talking to the mirror or whispering a fantasy to yourself first, so you can get used to how the words feel in your mouth. This is a good way to get used to verbalizing desire. It can also be helpful to write down a few phrases you find sexy and practice them.
For talking dirty over the phone, we'd advise making sure you won't be disturbed and getting into a relaxed state of mind.
Have a hot bath, a nice glass of wine, or whatever helps you to feel relaxed and confident. It may sound daft, but it can also help to wear something that makes you feel good - even if your partner can't see you. If you feel sexy, you will sound sexy!
Use descriptive words to create a sexy atmosphere
We recommend using lots of descriptive words to create the atmosphere. Reacting to what your partner says is great. Pick up a sexy word they use and incorporate it in your next sentence, for example.
Above all, enjoy it - it can be an incredible thrill to talk out a fantasy with a partner, and we're sure you'll find it so hot!
We hope this helps!
Team Sh! xx