The skin is the body’s largest erogenous zone with millions of sensory receptors, all of which deliver pleasure, especially when your skin is overloaded with sensations. Diving straight for the usual erotic zones like nipples and genitals misses out on large areas of our bodies that are receptive to the sensual pleasure of erotic touch. Neck, shoulders, inner thighs, feet: Anywhere you care to name!
Preparing for a sensual massage
Massage, erotic or otherwise, is not something to be rushed. It’s crucial to take it slow and ensure you are both comfortable.
- Prepare the area – gather towels, cushions, massage oils, lubricants and any sex toys you may want to use.
- Dim the lights or, even better, light candles. A sensual, relaxing environment is essential.
- You’ll need full access to their body, so lay them down diagonally on the bed or cushions on the floor.
- Only warm bodies can bask in the erotic glow of massage, so take a hot bath, light a fire or crank up the heat before stripping off.
- Turn off phones.
How to give an erotic massage
It can be incredibly sexy for your lover to be nude for an erotic massage. But exposing only the area about to be massaged is also hot. The effect of air on the skin can ignite the senses, and flashing certain small areas can feel vulnerable, especially when you get to the “erotic” bits.
Make sure to warm massage oils or lubricants for intimate massage in your hands before applying. Never pour liquids or gels directly onto bare skin. Cold oil or lube surprises and can totally ruin a relaxed mood.
Massage candles are a great way to deliver a warming, sensual massage. Massage candles are not like regular household candles. They burn at a much lower temperature, and the melted wax is safe for erotic massages. Make sure to blow out the candle and test the temperature on your arm or hand before applying the warm liquid to your body.
Take your time. A sensual massage is not something to rush. Set aside at least an hour for your sensual massage, and try not to get to the main dish (the erotic portion of the massage) until half an hour in.
Once you start massaging, don’t break contact between your skin and theirs. This slow continual rhythm allows your partner to relish in the erotic sensations.
Start with your lover lying on their front so you can work on their back. Start at their shoulders and work your way down to their feet. In this position, the erotic hot spot is the bum and what access you can get between their legs.
Turn them over and start again at their shoulders, working down to their feet, by way of breasts or chest, and then onto the pubic area. Whether massaging the bum or balls, legs or labia, go slowly and repeat each stroke 10 times: Use fluid, continuous and circular strokes.
For intimate areas, we recommend using silicone-based lube. Massage oil can cause irritation on delicate bits and is best avoided. Silicone lubricant has the oily feel and staying power necessary for massage. The silicone lubes we stock are safe to use with condoms should your massage turn into sex...
Massage wand vibrators
Vibration relaxes muscles, so a wand massager is great for erotic massage too. Massagers can be used externally all over the body to stimulate the senses. They offer powerful vibration, so keep a towel handy if you need to soften the buzz in genital areas. If the thrills are too powerful, place the soft towel over the body and vibrate through the material.
Pay close attention to your partner. In sensual massage, the stiffening of the body can mean that the massage is too firm or that they’re close to orgasm. The same goes for a moan – it’s your job as the erotic masseur to know the difference!