Q&A: Will a G-spot Vibrator Find My G-spot?

Dear Sh!

I've heard about the G-spot but have never found mine and I'm wondering if a G-spot vibrator will find it for me? Thanks!

Hello there,

G-spot vibrators don’t have built-in pleasure radars for instantly finding and satisfying your G-Spot – sorry... (We wish they did!)

There’s huge disagreement and conflicting evidence about the G-Spot. Check out this wiki page to see just how much doctors, scientists and researchers are tying themselves up in knots about it. Grab a cuppa first though, because it’s quite a read.

It’s great (and about time) that female anatomy, sexuality, and pleasure are finally being researched. But, we have to remember that this is all incredibly recent – the internal clitoris wasn’t discovered until 1998. It took another 10 years before French doctors Odile Buisson and Pierre Foldes created the first three-dimensional sonography of the female pleasure system. This sonography showed that the structure of the clitoris is a lot larger than the external little pea most of us think of, and it is mainly internal.

To put this into perspective, the first sonography of the penis was conducted in the 1970's.

Does the G-spot exist?

After centuries of ignoring female pleasure and arousal in the medical world (and a millennium of desexualizing it into female hysteria), it seems the race is on to make conclusive statements about our bodies and how they respond.

Whilst the hoo-haw rolls on, we prefer to go on our own evidence of chatting to thousands of women & vulva-owners over the years. Whether the G-spot is a specific spot that produces a different kind of orgasm, or is actually part of the internal clitoris and thus basically a clitoral orgasm is in the end immaterial.

You’ll see from the article that many medical & scientific peeps believe that the G-spot is an imagined holy-grail of female pleasure that doesn’t actually exist. But this doesn’t tally with our experience or empirical research. It seems, to us, that most ‘experts’ haven’t actually talked to womxn about their experiences. Nor have they experienced G-spot pleasure or the squirting or female ejaculation associated with it…

Many (we’d say most) womxn feel there is an area on the front wall of their vagina that feels a kind of ‘Oh! Wow!’ very different from the rest of the vaginal canal. For some, this is every time, but for most, it’s a very hit and miss affair.

Diagram of two fingers pressing against the G-spot

Does everyone enjoy G-spot stimulation?

The real question is whether we all respond to G-spot stimulation in the same way? The answer is a very obvious no (we’re resisting putting a duh! here). How turned-on we are, what kind of pressure or stimulation, whether we’re feeling safe & relaxed, or anxious and hurried, or a million other factors.

The one thing we think we can say for sure is that the G-spot is an elusive little trickster. Its awakening is very much dependent on how aroused you are, how firm the pressure it receives, for how long and how much you can relax into its sensations.

We’ve met many ‘medical experts’ who believe that the G-spot is a myth, and we’ve had many passionate debates about it.

We believe that it’s more than likely that all/most women do have the capacity to orgasm from inside, but whether the orgasm is coming from their G-spot or internal clitoris... Who knows? And in the end, does it matter what it’s called?

The place where we do agree with many experts is that no womxn should feel inadequate or a failure because they don’t spontaneously combust at the stimulation of any pleasure spot.

G-spot play should be fun and pleasurable

Finding your G-spot should be a pleasurable journey of sensations with meanderings off the path as your passion dictates, not a single-minded search without deviation.

Taking yourself on any journey of sexual discovery is worthwhile (highly recommended!), but embarking on a hunt for your G-spot with grim determination isn't. Try to not become hung up on finding it or having a G-spot orgasm. It becomes counter-productive because, while orgasm feels like a build-up of beautiful tension, being relaxed enough to be swamped by the build-up is the key to female-bodied orgasm.

So our advice is, always focus on the pleasurable sensations.

Does a G-spot vibrator guarantee an orgasm?

No toy can guarantee an orgasm, especially not a G-spot orgasm.

Being receptive to G-spot pleasure generally takes a long build-up. Using your fingers can be tiring, so introducing a G-spot toy makes good sense. G-spot toys are simply fabulous tools to add to the journey and may make discoveries easier. All our vibrators for the G-spot feature the firm texture, extra reach and curved tip that should make finding and massaging your G-spot easier.

The G-spot seems to respond better to pressure and motion than to vibration. A G-spot vibrator offers you the option of adding a buzz, which your clitoris will likely enjoy. This adds to your arousal, making your genitals swell and become more receptive. However, if you are keen to explore the G-spot, it's better to not clitorally orgasm if you can help it.

Lelo Ina Wave G-spot vibratir in purple and white

Also, we think it's worth considering a silicone dildo for G-spot play. With over 30 different shapes & sizes in our handmade range, they may offer you more bespoke and fulfilling choices!