Female ejaculation, sometimes used interchangeably with 'squirting', is a phenomenon that many of our customers are curious about.
We use 'female ejaculation' to describe the white and creamy fluid expelled by the Bartholin's Glands when a woman or vulva-owner is super-turned on. The creamy goop usually happens after a prolonged period of G-spot stimulation.
'Squirting' better describes the drops or gush of thin, clear liquid expelled by the Skenes' Glands, located close to the urethra of women & vulva-owners. Squirting is often reported to happen through intense clitoral stimulation.
Some folks squirt or ejaculate every time they have sex. For others, it's a rare treat, or perhaps it never happens at all. All of those experiences are normal.
Many of our customers feel intimidated by the sensations of squirting or ejaculating or so embarrassed that they have 'wet the bed' they don't allow themselves to experience it again.
Why is female ejaculation and squirting shrouded in anxiety?
Firstly, it's astounding that female ejaculation and squirting are still shrouded in mystery. Women's sexuality and sexual pleasure are so far down the medical establishment's list of priorities, that there is precious little research on the matter.
Secondly, we learn to control our bodies from such an early age so as to not wet the bed. Letting go, even for the purpose of pleasure, can be a tricky hurdle to get past.
There are physical reasons why the stirrings of ejaculation and squirting feel like you need to pee. The nerve that sends G-spot sensations to the brain also broadcasts messages from the bladder: This is why the building sensations of ejaculation or squirting feel like you are going to pee.
Our advice is to use the loo before play starts. This way you can relax into the sensations and just go with the flow, so to speak.
Squirting liquid has been clinically analysed and found to not be urine. It is an ejaculate fluid, like male ejaculate, minus the sperm.
Learning how to squirt or ejaculate
There are no sure-fire 'this will definitely work' instructions for learning how to ejaculate or squirt. It may even be that not every woman or vulva-owner is physically capable of it. Sorry.
Female sexuality is complex. It is dependent on what is going on in our heads as much as on our bodies. Attempting to ejaculate or squirt with single-minded determination will probably end in disappointment. It's far better to enjoy the exploration and come what may...
Top tips for exploring female ejaculation
Arousal is crucial. If you are not turned on, ejaculation or squirting won't happen. A G-spot orgasm and female ejaculation will likely take time. Set aside an hour (at least) - the longer you have to build arousal, the better!
A dab of G-Spot Gel encourages blood flow to this elusive erogenous zone. This gel helps the G-spot become more sensitive.
Fingers are great pleasure tools, but you may find that they tire quicker than you'd like. This is when a good G-spot vibrator or glass dildo can be helpful. A G-spot toy has a curved tip for more precise stimulation. They tend to be less flexible, as the G-spot responds better to firm massage.
Are you exploring the G-spot and the possibility of female ejaculation with a lover? Our advice is to be vocal about your pleasure. The G-spot can be a particular area that brings on intense sensations, often triggering those feelings like you want to pee. If your partner is stroking the right spot, tell them to keep going!
- Worrying about taking a long time or stressing about not 'getting there' will inhibit your chances. Try fantasizing or even watching some porn to keep your mind focused on pleasure.
- Permission to let go is crucial. Sometimes just hearing the words 'go ahead, drench the bed!' is enough to make you release fluids.
Best positions for G-spot stimulation
- On top: Positioning yourself on top gives you control of angle, thrust and speed. Leaning back offers more intense stimulation of the G-spot.
- Doggy style: Sex from behind is a great position as penetration is deep, and you can angle your hips to ensure strokes are in the right place.
- Missionary: Placing a pillow under your butt elevates your vagina and G-spot for fantastic stimulation on in and out strokes.
