- Traditional double dildos - extra-long toys with a dildo at each end, designed for flexible positioning and shared thrusting.
- Strapless dildos - curved toys featuring one longer shaft and one smaller bulb, intended to be worn by one partner while penetrating the other.
How to Use a Traditional Double-Ended Dildo
Pros & Cons of Double-Ended Dildos
Pros:
- Double-ended dildos can feel incredibly intimate, allowing both partners to share the same experience and sensations at the same time.
- There’s a naturally voyeuristic element to them too - watching each other’s reactions, movements, and pleasure is deeply erotic… *swoon*
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Because both partners help guide the toy, using one often feels collaborative and playful, encouraging communication, rhythm, and connection.
Cons:
- They can take a bit of practice and coordination, especially at first. Finding a comfortable rhythm together isn’t always as effortless as porn might suggest (laughing together is good!).
- Many traditional double-ended dildos feature the same size shaft at both ends, which may not suit partners with different comfort levels or penetration preferences.
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The design options can be disappointingly limited. Historically marketed through lesbian porn aesthetics, many are either hyper-realistic and flesh-toned or made from jelly PVC, a porous material best avoided. While there are safer and more stylish options available now, the range is still smaller than in other toy categories.
Create Your Own Custom Double-Ended Dildo
One of the most common complaints about traditional double-ended dildos is that they can be a lot - often long, thick, and designed with identical shafts at each end. Great for some couples, less ideal if one or both of you prefer slimmer toys or different sizes.
That’s where the Sh! Double Dildo Strap Connector comes in.
Designed to fit slim-to medium-girth dildos, the connector allows you to transform two separate dildos into your own bespoke double-ended toy. Simply slide the strap over both dildos, line their bases up together, and fasten the poppers to secure them in place.
The best part - your dildos don’t need to match! Mix and match different shapes, sizes, textures, or firmness levels to create a combination that suits both partners perfectly - whether that means petite on one end, curved on the other, or two completely different sensations altogether! How about that!
Best Position for Double-Ended Dildo Play: Scissors
Prop yourselves up with pillows and weave one leg over your partner’s opposite leg, bringing your bodies and pubic areas close together.
Once you’re comfortably positioned, slip one end of the dildo inside each partner. From there, you can take turns reaching beneath your raised leg to guide the toy between you, experimenting with rhythm, angle, and depth until you find a motion that works for both of you.
This position keeps you close enough to kiss, touch, and maintain eye contact, making it feel connected and increadibly sensual... *sigh*
How to Use a Strapless Double Dildo
Read more about how to use a strapless dildo here.
