Dear Sh!
I think I have an abnormally tiny clit. I have never come very easily and never through oral sex, and it was only when I slept with a woman that she commented what a tiny clit I have. I guess this is my problem. Does anyone know of anything that can help with a tiny clit?
I looked up cosmetic surgery but the only thing I can see is G-spot augmentation - so has anyone had that or does anyone have any advice about a tiny clit - any ideas mucho appreciated.
Hi there,
We're sorry to hear about your struggles with orgasms, and also that a lover took it upon herself to make comments about the size of your clitoris. That's not very supportive, we must say.
Having an orgasm with a new partner is tricky for most of us. We are often so in our heads, we can end up clit-blocking ourselves.This is not unusual at all.
However, there are good news.
There is no link between clitoris size and sexual responsiveness or function.
A tiny clitoris certainly does not mean tiny orgasms or no orgasms at all. A small clit can be trickier to find, but it's no less able to orgasm.
Rather than looking at commercial cosmetic surgery sites which encourage feelings of 'abnormality,' take a look at educational sites instead. The clitoris is a complex structure. The tiny part underneath the clitoral hood is just the tip of the iceberg.
Vibrators are great for learning how to orgasm.
A vibe delivers steady, sustained and intense stimulation that is often enough to turn pre-orgasmic women into 'yes! yes! yes!' orgasmic women.
We recommend taking a look at our clitoral vibes. Different vibes for different folks, of course, but a super-strong clit vibrator like the intensely powerful Wand Vibrator can be just the thing for pre-orgasmic women.
It is often easier to learn how to orgasm during solo play, so lock the door, download some hot porn and focus on sexy sensations.
Get to know your body through masturbation.
Lots of women find orgasms tricky or elusive, and it has nothing to do with the size of their clitoris. Not being able to orgasm is usually down to 3 things:
- Not being aware of how our body works
- Not experimenting with what pleasures our body likes best
- Learning how to 'be in the moment'
We recommend taking a look at our orgasm course for women, Becoming Orgasmic. This is a fun and educational online course that guides you through anatomy, masturbation, and the importance of keeping your mind connected to the task at hand (so to speak) for your orgasm to reveal itself.
Remember, whatever you do - enjoy every minute of the discovery process!
Team Sh! xx
