My girlfriend doesn't want sex without showering first. She won't have it, but I really I like her in her natural, just-home state. What can I do?
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Many are happy to strip off and get down to it after a long day at the office or a long night on the dance floor. Others can't even contemplate sex before a shower.
This is totally understandable as we're bombarded by messages and advertisements for products to make every part of our body fresh and sweet-smelling and designed to mask our natural scents from under our arms or within our panties. And yet, the salty, musky tastes and scents our bodies create during sexual excitement are biochemically designed to arouse and inspire us to have sex...
There's a head versus body thing going on - many of us only feel confident to be sexy when we're clean, but lovers get turned on by the pheromones (the body's natural attractants) of our 'au natural' state.
If your girlfriend needs a quick shower to feel confident before sex, so be it.
Few of us are free of sexual insecurities. If showering means the difference between being a sex kitten or a shy puss, then there's little point in wading in and forcing the issue. Once your girlfriend is enjoying your attention, all those musty smells you crave will surface anyway!
This isn't to say that you should hustle her into the shower as soon as she steps through the door... You should still carry on subtly communicating just how powerfully attractive her body's natural scents are to you, and over time, this will help build her confidence that she is totally sexy to you in her natural state.
We hope this helps!
Team Sh! xx