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Q&A: I'm interested in spanking

Q&A: I'm interested in spanking

Hey Sh!

I'm interested in trying spanking with my girlfriend. It's not something we've done before, so I wanted to know how to make it fun and safe. I'd be grateful for any information you can give me.

What's the best type of implement for a beginner? Thanks!

Hi there, 

It’s great to hear from you and also great that you’re thinking about safety in your spanking adventures.

Our first tip is that you get in some practice on a pillow before trying out your technique on your partner. Then have a go on yourself. This way, you should get an idea of what you’re going for without any risk of injury.

Once you’re ready to start spanking with your partner, be aware that their tolerance might be different from yours. Communication is crucial, and make sure to stop if they need a break.

Spanking for beginners

Start by lightly rubbing or spanking the area with your hands to bring the blood up to the skin. Go for well-padded areas like the buttocks and thighs, and aim for the middle or lower part of the bottom. Pain thresholds rise directly in line with arousal, so the more turned-on they are, the more spanking they can take.

Never rush a spanking; let it take the time it takes... 

To begin with, you might want to use a broad flat spanking implement. Blows from something hard and narrow are more likely to leave lasting marks, whereas something hard and flat leaves a lasting redness. Soft and flat means no more than a slight blush.

Bear in mind that the shorter a spanking implement is, the easier it will be to control. You could try one of our spanking paddles with a soft fur side for stroking over smarting buttocks, or maybe this small whip with its soft tendrils.

The final word is a reminder to ask your partner what they want and enjoy and err on the safe side, especially to begin with!

Best Wishes,

Team Sh! xx

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