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Q&A: How can I spice up masturbation?

Q&A: How can I spice up masturbation? - Sh! Women's Store

"Dear Sh! I'm single and masturbate regularly but sometimes it's a bit boring. What can I do to make it more exciting?"

Hi there,

Thanks for getting in touch!

The art of pleasure should be applied to sex with yourself as you would with a new lover. The trick is to not just masturbate but seduce yourself...

Of course, sometimes a quick sesh is just what the doctor ordered, but avoid falling into the habit of a finger-jingle without variation. 

Put time, energy and imagination into having great sex with yourself, as you would a lover. After all, this is the longest sexual relationship you will ever have!

There is no right or wrong way to enjoy a solo pleasure. There are lots of things to try: 

  • Fingers
  • Sex toys¬†
  • Shower on full blast
  • Washing machine on slow spin
  • Legs spread
  • Thighs clenched together

The key is relaxing, fantasising and exploring new ways of getting yourself off.

Tips for spicing up masturbation

A few drops of lube will heighten sensitivity, and we have a great selection of vagina-friendly lubricants here. You should never use baby oil, vaseline or moisturizer - unless you relish the idea of an itch in your ditch...

Reading erotica is a great way to source fantasy material. This is especially good if your imagination needs a kick-start or weaving a sexy scenario seems like hard work. 

For women who find orgasms elusive or their hands tire before it arrives, the throbbing of a vibrator will often help.

a hand with red nail varnish holding a purple G-spot vibrator


Seduce yourself!

So, next time you make a date with yourself, enjoy an utterly indulgent time.

  • Champagne? (Yes, please!)
  • An aromatic bath lit by candlelight? (You tease!)
  • Dress to undress (Strip-tease!)

And if the chemistry is right, let the romance swing into raw desire and have a long, delicious sex session with yourself. Take your time and build up your arousal. Yes ‚Äď you know how to give yourself a quick orgasm. But resist having one until you really can‚Äôt take it anymore‚Ķ Read up on edging here - you can thank us later *wink*

The orgasm you eventually have will make your head spin!

Best Wishes,

Team Sh! xx

More tips & tricks for fun masturbation here! 


An analogy I heard ages ago and like a lot is that ‚ÄúMasturbation is like eating. Whatever you do it will satisfy you but how you do it makes a lot of difference to how enjoyable it will be‚ÄĚ. I take it that while sometimes a quickie ‚Äúsnack‚ÄĚ is great other times a ‚Äú5 course gourmet dinner‚ÄĚ is needed, and that no matter how nice a ‚Äúdish‚ÄĚ is you get board of it if its all you have to ‚Äúeat‚ÄĚ. as a result I have both a well stocked larder and a full toy and dressing up cupboard!


Brilliant analogy and so true Camilla!

Team Sh!

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