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Erectile Dysfunction: What To Do If You Are Experiencing It

Erectile Dysfunction: What To Do If You Are Experiencing It - Sh! Women's Store

Erectile dysfunction, also known as impotence, is the inability to get and keep an erection firm enough for sex.

Having erection trouble from time to time isn't necessarily something to worry about. Up to half of all penis-owners will experience erectile dysfunction at some point. It can be something as simple as 'brewer's droop' causing the lack of firmness (a soft penis due to a couple of pints too many).

If the lack of erection is ongoing, it can cause stress, affect self-confidence and contribute to relationship problems. This is something that needs to be looked into.

In many cases, ongoing impotence is caused by something physical. Some of the most common causes include medication, diabetes, high blood pressure, smoking or drinking excessively, high cholesterol or a heart condition.

For some, a soft-on has nothing to do with physical fitness and everything to do with what's going on inside their minds. Depression, anxiety or other mental health conditions are common culprits, as is stress or problems within their relationship.

Here are a few tips on what to do (and what not to do) if you are experiencing erectile dysfunction:

Speak to your GP

Has the erectile dysfunction been going on for a while? It's time to book an appointment with your doctor.

You may feel uncomfortable discussing your flaccid peen with your GP but remember that they are a health professional, and this is part of what they do.

Your GP will be able to look at your medical history and current lifestyle and offer you some professional help to get things back to normal. Their main concern will be to get you back to physical and mental peak performance, and a healthy blood flow to your penis is part of this.


Don’t trust online ‘pharmacies’

The first thing you might want to do is order some Viagra, but these little pills can do more harm than good.

Viagra and other erection-enhancing pharmaceuticals from abroad aren’t tested for potentially harmful ingredients. If you have an underlying medical condition, putting pills in your system could put your health at serious risk. We get so many calls from guys wanting Viagra - which we don't sell. Our response is always the same: Speak to your GP.

If there is a genuine erection issue, you need a doctor. If you want something for the weekend, creams, gels and lubes will make your li'l dude pop with pleasure.

Talk to your partner

If your erectile dysfunction has come on suddenly, it won’t be long until your partner begins to wonder why you’re shying away from sex. Without knowing the reasons for your reticence, it could be easy for them to jump to the wrong conclusion that you’ve either been getting your rocks off elsewhere or don’t find them physically attractive anymore. This will ultimately lead to arguments, so talk to your partner, put their mind at ease and allow them to support you while you seek to find a resolution for the issue.

We often say that a man is at his most vulnerable when his cock is hard, but perhaps this is even truer when someone has a penis that refuses to stand to attention.

If your partner is experiencing erectile dysfunction, remember to be supportive. The ED is most likely nothing to do with their love or desire for you, so don't take the soft penis personally.

Introduce some toys

Having ED doesn't mean that pleasure can't happen in other ways. There are tongues and fingers, for example - excellent tools when it comes to pleasuring partners! Not everyone is into penetrative play anyway, and there are plenty of other fun activities to enjoy together.

We have several customers who have fully embraced their soft-ons and moved on to introduce sex toy play into their love life instead.

Black leather strap-on harness

One of our gentlemen customers took the plunge and bought a strap-on for himself and his female partner to enjoy, and they've never looked back. They now have an impressive collection of dildos, and she can pick and choose depending on what they're in the mood for.

A strap-on harness worn by a male-bodied person is most commonly worn above their own package. Some wear theirs sat right on top of their meat & two veg, but this can feel bulky depending on individual build. If you want to try this option, we recommend wearing a pair of tighty-whiteys' underneath the harness as that'll help keep the family jewels under control.

Silicone dildos in gold and white

It's important to remember that whilst the strap-on will help you achieve self-confidence and return you to your status of pleasure-giver, the size of the dildo should be chosen by the person on the receiving end. This is not the time to get the 10-inch tool of your dreams - trust us on this, some things are just best left as fantasies!

If your partner is comfortable with two fingers internally, for example, that is the size to opt for. If you are unsure, we recommend popping into our chatbox and a member of our team will be happy to help find the best-size dildo.

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