The clitoris is one of the most misunderstood and underappreciated parts of the female-bodied anatomy. Despite being a powerful organ solely dedicated to pleasure, it remains shrouded in mystery and misinformation.
In this comprehensive guide, we’ll explore the anatomy, function, and significance of the clitoris, dispelling myths and highlighting its role in sexual pleasure. Whether you’re looking to deepen your knowledge for personal reasons or to become a better-informed partner & lover, this guide will help you understand why the clitoris deserves your attention.
Anatomy of the Clitoris: More Than Meets the Eye
When most people think of the clitoris, they envision a small, visible nub located above the vaginal opening. However, this is just the tip of the iceberg—literally! The external part of the clitoris, known as the glans, is just the visible portion of a much larger, complex organ that extends internally.
The Visible Part: The Glans & Hood
The glans is the small, pea-sized tip of the clitoris that is visible outside the body. It is highly sensitive and covered by a protective fold of skin known as the clitoral hood, which shields the clit from direct contact and friction. This external part contains thousands of nerve endings, more than any other part of the human body, making it incredibly sensitive to touch.
There is no exact count to date, but recent research indicates that the clitoral tip is home to some 10.000+ nerve endings. (Blows our minds!)
The Hidden Structure: Clitoral Body & Crura
Beneath the surface, the clitoris extends into two main parts: the body (or shaft) and the crura. The clitoral body runs internally, about an inch long, and branches into two 'legs' or crura, which extend along the sides of the vaginal opening. These internal structures are also sensitive and contribute to the overall pleasure experienced during arousal and orgasm.
Vestibular Bulbs
The clitoris also includes the vestibular bulbs, which are located on either side of the vaginal opening. These bulbs swell with blood during arousal, enhancing the sensitivity and pleasure of the surrounding areas.
The full anatomy of the clitoris resembles a wishbone, with its internal branches wrapping around the vaginal opening. This extensive network plays a crucial role in sexual pleasure, underscoring that the clitoris is much more than a small external nub.
Function of the Clitoris: The Pleasure Center
The clitoris is unique among human organs because its only purpose is pleasure. Unlike the penis, which serves both reproductive and urinary functions, the clitoris is dedicated exclusively to sexual enjoyment. This makes it a vital part of female-bodied sexual health and well-being.
Nerve Endings and Sensation
With over 10.000 nerve endings, the clitoris is designed to provide intense sensations. These nerve endings are connected to the pelvic region, further enhancing the pleasure experienced when stimulated. The clitoris responds to touch, pressure, and vibration, making it versatile in how it can be stimulated.
Arousal and Orgasm
Stimulation of the clitoris is often the most direct route to orgasm for women & vulva owners. During arousal, increased blood flow causes the clitoris to swell and become more sensitive. Continued stimulation can lead to intense orgasms, which are often described as a build-up of pleasure that culminates in a release of tension and toe-curling waves of satisfaction. (Yep, love that!)
Clitoral Orgasms vs. Vaginal Orgasms
There are differing opinions on whether clitoral orgasms and vaginal orgasms are entirely separate experiences, or whether vaginal orgasms originate from the internal clitoris. We don't have the answer to this - we suspect the truth is far more complicated (and varied) than just 'clitoral orgasm' or 'vaginal orgasm.'
It's possible that vaginal orgasms originate from stimulation of the internal structures of the clitoris such as the crura and vestibular bulbs, through the vaginal walls and the erogenous zones known as the G-spot or the A-spot.
But - does it really matter? An orgasm is an orgasm - delicious waves of pleasure! Until science catches up, perhaps we just leave it at that.
Myths & Misconceptions About the Clitoris
Despite its significance, the clitoris is often misunderstood, leading to myths and misconceptions that can hinder sexual satisfaction and education.
Myth: The Clitoris Is Hard to Find
One of the most pervasive myths is that the clitoris is difficult to find. Not true. The external clitoris are easy to find once you know where to look —just above the urethral opening and below the pubic mound. The misconception arises from a lack of education and exploration, rather than the complexity of the anatomy itself.
Grab a mirror and take a look! (It's not as weird as it sounds. Think about it - you probably look at your face in the mirror every day - why not your vulva?) And once you know where your clit is located, you'll be able to educate your bed partners :)
Myth: Size Matters
The size of the visible clitoris varies from person to person, but this has no impact on its ability to provide pleasure. Much of the clitoris is internal, and all sizes are capable of producing intense orgasms.
In short - a bigger clit doesn't mean better orgasms. It just means it's easier to find :)
Myth: The Clitoris Is Only for Masturbation
While the clitoris is often associated with masturbation, it plays an essential role in partnered sex as well. Many people with clitorises find that direct clitoral stimulation during intercourse enhances pleasure and increases the likelihood of orgasm.
Let's take a side-step to mention the orgasm gap here.
The orgasm gap refers to the disparity in the frequency of orgasms experienced by men and women during sexual encounters, especially in heterosexual relationships. Studies have consistently shown that men are more likely to reach orgasm than women during partnered sex.
This gap is influenced by several factors, including societal expectations, lack of comprehensive sex education, and differences in anatomy. Culturally, there is often more emphasis on male pleasure and penetration-focused sex, which may not be as stimulating for many women. Women's sexual pleasure can also be overlooked or misunderstood due to a lack of open communication about what feels good for them.
Moreover, some people may not be fully aware of the importance of clitoral stimulation for most women to achieve orgasm, unlike the more straightforward path to orgasm for many men through penis stimulation. Addressing the orgasm gap involves better education about female anatomy, more open conversations between partners about sexual needs and desires, and a shift towards prioritizing mutual pleasure. Reducing this gap can lead to more satisfying sexual experiences for both partners and promote a healthier, more equal approach to sexual intimacy.
If you are interested in reading more (and bridging!) about the orgasm gap, we highly recommend Mind The Gap by Dr Karen Gurney.
Myth: Vaginal Intercourse Alone Should Be Sufficient for Orgasm
The idea that vaginal intercourse alone is the primary route to orgasm is a misconception rooted in cultural biases rather than biological reality. For many, clitoral stimulation—whether direct or indirect—is crucial for achieving orgasm during sex and penetration.
We'd like to mention porn here, and the unrealistic expectations it puts on sex and orgasms.
Porn can certainly have its place in solo and couples pleasure, but its misleading. Taking your sex & pleasure education from porn is a bit like expecting Maccy D to teach you about fine dining. (We like the occasional McD meal as much as the next person, but it's not quite up there with Michelin Star restaurants).
Porn is designed to heighten arousal. Angles, moves and sound effects are exaggerated and scenes are cut to coincide with how long it takes for a typical male viewer to blow his load (not that long!).
Porn also shows the female participants orgasming several times from being banged in a number of uncomfortable positions... Sorry folks, these orgasms are often faked. Please don't expect yourself or your partner to orgasms from a minute or two of penetration. It is highly unlikely this'll happen.
The Clitoris and Sexual Health
Understanding the clitoris is vital for sexual health, as it impacts everything from sexual satisfaction to overall well-being.
Enhancing Sexual Pleasure
Knowledge of the clitoris and its anatomy can significantly enhance sexual experiences. By incorporating clitoral stimulation, solo players and couples can explore new dimensions of pleasure and deepen their sexual satisfaction.
Masturbation & Self-Exploration
Masturbation is a healthy way to explore the clitoris and understand what feels good. This self-exploration can lead to better sexual experiences with partners by communicating desires and boundaries.
Communication & Consent
Open communication about clitoral stimulation and preferences is essential in any sexual relationship. Discussing what feels good and setting boundaries ensures that all partners are comfortable and satisfied.
Addressing Sexual Dysfunction
For some, issues such as anorgasmia (difficulty having orgasm) or decreased sensitivity can affect sexual satisfaction. Understanding the role of the clitoris and seeking professional advice when needed can help address these concerns and improve sexual health.
If you struggle to orgasm alone or with a partner, we recommend the Shush Life online course 'Becoming Orgasmic.' This fun and empowering course covers anatomy, masturbation techniques and toys - and the best thing is that you can take it from the privacy of your bedroom!
"I thought I was the only one who finds it tricky to 'tip over the edge' but Becoming Orgasmic made me feel normal and gave me lots of ways to explore how I can have more orgasms, more regularly. Feeling empowered and positive - I'm going to watch each session again and do the homework in between, so I can really learn to love my body and the pleasure it gives me!"
Celebrating the Clitoris: A Path to Empowerment
The clitoris is a powerful symbol of pleasure, autonomy, and sexual health. Embracing its importance can lead to a more fulfilling and empowered sexual experience.
Education and Awareness
Educating oneself and others about the clitoris is the first step towards breaking down the stigma and myths that surround female sexuality. Greater awareness leads to more informed choices and healthier sexual experiences.
Empowerment Through Pleasure
Understanding and celebrating the clitoris allows people to reclaim their pleasure and prioritize their sexual satisfaction. This empowerment can lead to more confident and fulfilling intimate relationships.
Cultural Shifts in Sexuality
As society becomes more open about female pleasure and the role of the clitoris, we can move towards a more inclusive and equitable understanding of sexuality. This cultural shift not only benefits individuals but also fosters healthier, more respectful sexual dynamics in relationships.
Conclusion: The Clitoris Is Key
The clitoris is a remarkable organ dedicated entirely to pleasure, deserving of attention and understanding. By learning about its anatomy, function, and significance, we can enhance sexual experiences, promote sexual health, and celebrate the diversity of pleasure.
The clitoris isn’t just a part of the body; it’s a gateway to empowerment, joy, and connection.
So, let's give it the attention and appreciation it deserves, recognizing that knowledge about the clitoris is key to unlocking a more pleasurable and fulfilling sex life!
